(it’s like Jeopardy up in herre today!)
What is worrying?
(Did you get it right? Please to bestow upon yourself the prize of skipping this post a happy zen-filled FRET-FREE Thursday)
Years ago, at a yoga instructor certification course, a woman made the above comment to me when I expressed concern about a situation.
For me the sentence was life altering.
I wasnt an active worrier, but was already a big believer in the law of attraction.
It made perfect sense to me that by focusing on precisely what I did not desire (Please dont let my plane be delayed. I need to get home. Ive a deadline to nail) I was essentially praying (or attracting if youre not one for prayer) for the event to transpire.
And, when I say life altering moment, I mean it from my core.
Ive had relatively few of these AhHas! (this was another) & this one 100% shifted my life-view.
The conundrum was I still had lottsa frets & worries in my head and I needed something productive to do with them.
I give you MizFit’s Top Two Tips to Avoid Praying For What You Do Not Want.
Ask yourself if the worry is helpful or productive?
Is this a worry where you can take action and mitigate it?
Is this a fret where your attention could bring about a ‘better’ outcome?
Indeed worry and then ACT.
Is this a fear-based worry where the matter is out of your hands (this is/are the majority of mine)?
Make 2011 the year where you work the muscle of LETTING GO of what you can not control. For some this is let go let G-d for others it’s merely letting go. Use trial and error to find what works for you.
Create a dedicated worry place or time.
While this sounds silly (& against the whole notion of the law of attraction) it works for me.
I found, like any major life change, my ability to let go of worrying was a process not an overnight!success!
As a result I needed to create a way to manage my frets until I could (can? tomato tomaaaahto) re-train my brain to release them in general.
Some find dedicating a specific amount of time per day to addressing worries translates into the frets not invading the other 23.5 hours (or however long you choose).
For me a more tangible approach was needed.
Until I re-trained my brain to fret-less as a habit, I wore a necklace pouch. (The sort more earthy types carry crystals in.) During the day, when a worry threatened to derail my thinking, I wrote it on a small piece of paper & placed it in the pouch.
Not only was I able to ‘let the fret go’ it served as a tangible indicator, as the weeks progressed & the pouch was less full at days end, of my new way of thinking becoming a habit.
(Takes a moment, focuses & does not let herself worry if anyone is still reading)
confession: Most of my posts start out longlong & only make it to my blog after being trimmed down so much they resemble insert joke here about newly shockingly skinny celebrity. This post began as even longer & this version is indeed the Kelly Osborne Post-Dancing With the Stars revision. That’s how life-altering this concept was for me.
Are you a worrier whos already experienced the AH HA! of setting the frets free? What tactics/approaches worked for you?
Are you Miz or MizTer Footloose & Fancyfree and have utterly no idea what this entire post is even about?
Please to hit us all up in the comments below.
Oh, and this post is brought to you by the fit-minded Peeps at Sears Fit Club.
And yes Im now worrying that they wont like it.