What I wish for the Tornado on Mother’s Day 2012.

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Before I was a mom I assumed parents only stopped to think about what they wanted for their children on special days.

I presumed on birthdays or graduations parents might ponder what kind of life they hoped their child would lead.  Day-to-day, however, I erroneously assumed this concept was not in the forefront of parents’ minds.

Now that I’m a mom I realize the exact opposite is true.

Not a day goes by where I don’t play with my daughter and wonder how her life will unfold.  Not a 24 hour period passes where I don’t think, at least once, of all the many things I hope she will experience.

With Mother’s Day rapidly approaching (because really. we all know Im writing this saturday night) I’ve spent time thinking about what I wish for my daughter both this year and beyond.

And, as much as I like to think we’re completely quirky and unique around here, I’d bet many of you have the same hopes for the little people in your lives.**

I hope you never lose your sense of joy.  I smile at how you greet each morning exuding excitement over what lies ahead.  I adore how you enter new situations expecting the best and knowing it will come to you.  I love how the tiniest of experiences puts a smile on your face.  I wish you never let this go.

 

 

I hope you remain unapologetically yourself.  Each time I watch your inimitable kindergarten swagger I make a wish you never shed this confidence.  I hope you always possess the inner strength to be completely who you are.   I wish you to remember (and live): Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.


I hope you always know you’re enough…in this very moment and in all the moments which are to come.  You will change and grow as you mature, but I wish you always to remember you are enough just by virtue of being you.

 

I hope you can find answers in the stillness.  I wish you to maintain your sense of curiosity about the world.  I wish you to travel and experience all you long to.  I want you to read and learn and meet new people and share ideas.  I wish you to remember, when all the external stuff falls away, everything you need is already within you.


What do you wish for the little people in your life on this Mother’s Day?

Have you ever stopped to ponder what your mother/mother figure wished for you?

 

(I know Sundays are where posts go to die—but I couldnt let today pass without forcing my words upon you sharing my thoughts.)

 

 

**I’m a firm believer we have the ability and opportunity to mother in myriad capacities.   Role models, teachers, aunt, step-moms, babysitters etc. all “mother” and possess hopes & dreams for these loved ones, too.

 

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  13. Sadly I suspect my mother wanted more from me than I’ve achieved. Not so much in my career etc (as I’ve probably done more than she expected), but I think she would have liked to see me happily married or partnered off with a family of my own.

    Or certainly should would have liked to see me more contented.

  15. i think that hope is instilled in her everyday and she knows it. She’s a beautiful little woman full of JOY because of YOU! What a great gift.
    Thanks for this reminder! happy mama day MIZ!

  18. We all wish these things for all of our “children” – a couple of which I did not give birth to but are mine just the same. Happy Mothers Day Miz. You are a blessed family.

  20. That’s exactly what I wish. We’re struggling through a really bad adolescence with the younger daughter right now, and some days I don’t know how we’re going to get through it, so these are the wishes I make every single day.

    As usual, you nailed it, Miz. I know – it’s just obvious – that you truly feel how blessed you are to have your sweet girl…and your sweet girl is so blessed to have you for a mom. Happy Mother’s day. 🙂

  21. I love how you said and Facebook that you wish this same thing for all of us.

  22. I wonder if my mother wished these things for me?
    I know I wish them for my niece who is like a daughter to me.

    Beautiful words, Miz.

  23. I couldn’t have said it better myself.

    My girls are two veeeeeeeery different little people and I hope they stay just who they are (warts and all) until their dying day. The world tries awfully hard to beat us into submission, but my job is to make sure they’re strong enough to take the beating and keep on going.

    To be perfectly honest I worry more about one than the other. This parenting this is never easy, but it’s ALWAYS worth it.

    Happy Mother’s Day!

  24. Wonderfully said Carla, as usual. I became a stepmother at the age of 35 so it didn’t happen automatically (and anyone who says it does is lying), but I have come to think about the same things for my stepkids (who are now 26, 29, and 32). The process I went through to get to this point is interesting. Now I get to be a Grandma too, and am redefining what that means (for me). You’ve really got me thinking about some stuff here…it goes something like this: I don’t think I have the mothering/grandmothering instinct that most women have, but I have learned to follow my instincts in terms of being me, for them, if that makes sense. And that’s what I wish for them.

    As for my mother? Deeeeeeep down inside, she wishes for me all the same things you do for the Tornado, but I don’t think she is consciously aware or knows how to express it.

    Happy Mother’s Day to you!

  25. I always knew – because I have the most amazing dad who became my dad through marrying my mom – that the best parents aren’t always the ones we’re born with, but it wasn’t until five beautiful little kids without functional parents came into my life that I knew what it felt like from this side of the equation. I want the world for them but I’ll settle for good health, knowing they are loved unconditionally by at least two people in the world – my husband and me, the confidence to be who they are, and the confidence to know that they don’t have to settle for less than love and happiness in their lives.

    Great post!

  26. This is so beautiful! I wrote my mom an email this morning to tell her how much she means to me. I couldn’t find the words. But I know she knew what I meant and I’m sure she knows it all the time but I felt it needed to be said… again. I think that being a mom has been my greatest accomplishment… and I say that with pride. I’m happy that for many years I defined myself as a mom, first and foremost.

  27. I love this post! I hope the little people in my life know that only they can bring peace to their lives. I think my mom wanted me to be happy, strong, and independent. She succeeded!

  29. Carla – I loved this – I thought about how I wish I had kept some of these trait as I aged but to tell you the honest truth, some I did not have when I was little. I remember as far back as Tornado’s age, not feeling good about myself.

    This is what I LOVE about your teach by example. Just being you leads your daughter to be just the person she can be! I wish all you wrote for all children!

    Just yesterday I was chatting with a stranger. Their baby had one of those little helmets on & one of our granddaughters had one too when she was little. I was saying what a “tude” she has BUT better she like herself & maybe have to learn how to “execute that tude in a better way” than start out not liking herself & that is hard to overcome…..

    HAPPY MOM’s DAY!!!

  37. My “little girl” is now a big girl-and I still wish the same things for her that I did when she was little. Happiness. Serenity. Good friends. It’s all you need really (well, that and a paycheck!)

  41. Beautiful. Just beautiful. I think if I asked my mom, she would have said she wanted me to be a strong willed woman who went for what she wanted. I know she is watching over me daily.

  43. Great post and great pics — think I’m partial to the last picture because I’m all in love with yoga right now…

  44. I just can’t get over how much I love your mothering style. And I totally believe what you say about your hopes and dreams for your lovely daughter. It’s so refreshing for me to see, in such a personal way.
    I know you get what I’m actually trying to say here…

  46. I didn’t get to comment on this yesterday, but it was the first post I read in the morning. It is a beautiful post and brought tears to my eyes for two reasons. It reminds me SO much of the relationship I have with my mom and it’s the relationship I hope to have with my little one. I love everything about it and how you are living your priorities. <3

  48. that last pic. These kids and their inner-being mediation practices. My kid was doing the same thing at the dinner table last night (in a restaurant). LOL!

  50. OMG…I ‘Heart’ this. With a capital H!!! Belated Happy mother’s day to you, and belated ‘happy she’s your mom’ day to Tornado!!! Have a great week Miz.

  51. This post touched me deeply. You are actively instilling those things in her now, Carla, and it’s beautiful to behold. So many of us are only learning them later in life. You are an awesome role model!

  52. As everyone else said, this is a great post. I was lucky enough to find out what my mom wished for me one day, back when I was a mid-teen. We were walking to the store and I don’t remember what sparked the conversation. One of her wishes for me was happiness, another, to follow my dreams. I have never asked my other sibs if they had a moment like that with Ma. Guess I should!

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  54. Miz, I never comment but have been reading since time immemorial…and how could I not respond to this? 🙂 Beautiful…and how fortunate is your daughter to have you as her mommy 🙂 xo Erin

  55. “I hope you will always know that you are enough” – will you be my mom, please?? I love the way you think. This is why I always tell my friends “Happy Anniversary of the day you became a mom!” on their eldest child’s birthday:)

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