Before we commence debunking excuses I have to say I’m grateful.
I closed the comments on my NO Excuses! tee shirt exercise in hopes *some* of you would create your own tees.
Not only did many of you participate/share photos via email—I was thrilled to see an apparel company I love tweeting how they, too, were intrigued by the exercise.
My plan had been to write a follow-up post refuting common excuses for veering away from our healthy living path.
The more emails I received, however, the more I was reminded we may all share a common goal (living a healthier, more vibrant life) yet we possess vastly different *excuses* for why we’ve fallen short in our attempts.
The emails did clarify for me what we do have in common no matter our goals: the skill of excuse making.
(my EXCUSE-tee was covered FRONT and BACK!)
As I watched my friend create YET ANOTHER white tee covered in *my* excuses I saw only was I not achieving my goal—Id become a skilled EXCUSE-manufacturer along the way.
So we’re backing up.
Back to before we placed marker-to-tee to when we started manufacturing those excuses.
It’s time to focus on how to STOP.
Four Steps to STOP making excuses—and START achieving your goals.
- Take responsibility. Once upon a time I beat the idea of personal responsibility to death. I always took responsibility for all things in my life—until I didn’t. I could see clearly when the Child shirked responsibility, but I’d lost the ability to recognize it in myself. Colorful Sharpie against stark white fabric was a glaring reminder: each excuse we make is an effort to relieve ourselves of responsibility for not nailing the goals we’ve set for ourselves.
- Don’t dig up in doubt what you’ve planted in faith. This is another idea we’ve chatted about and I’d forgotten. And *another* which I can see in my child, yet not myself. All things take time. Set the goal, work toward it, tirelessly, and wait. Don’t dig up in doubt what you’ve planted in faith. Which leads me to…
- Stop and recognize how far you’ve come! Even if all you’ve managed (raises hand) is a little baby step toward your goal. From N.S.V.’s to the tiniest of movement toward goal-achievement be sure to pause and celebrate you along the way! Have you made absolutely no recognizable progress? Revisit responsibility, recommit, and move forward again. Still no progress? Still more excuses than movement? That brings me to…
- Perhaps it’s time to shed your goal. Sometimes I grow more attached to the IDEA of the goal than committed to actual achievement. Often I set healthy living goals, my life changes/shifts, and that goal—while *healthy*—is no longer a fit! Healthy habits. Lofty goals. Sometimes the reason we have myriad excuses for not achieving them is simply because they’re no longer a fit! And that’s OK.
And now I toss it all back to you.
- Which trap do you fall into when it comes to making excuses about goal achievement?
- Which step above might help you finally and permanently achieve your healthy living goals?