We’ve talked about the fact I’m working not to be judgmental.
I’ve not walked miles any shoes save my own (I may think I know what theirs feel like—I have no idea).
For me, however, judging is different from intuitive living.
Passing judgement is not the same as trusting our guts & going with the immediate feedback they provide.
It’s not the same, to define in its most basic of ways, as making snap judgements.
And, when framed in the gut-tapping way, I’m all in *favor* of the snap judgements.
Once upon a time the Child would assemble outfits based on instinct:
(yep, those ARE my compression-sleeves.)
She’d put on what “felt right” (<—there’s that “gut” & intuitive living) and proceed with her day without giving her attire another thought.
One of my fave phases was when she’d add pink weight lifting gloves to every outfit and refer to them as her finger-puffs (?).
(sadly no pics remain of the puffs can be found)
She’d also spontaneously tattoo her face seeming to intuit Mike Tyson’ing herself was that day’s way to go:
Or she’d snag her pink gloves (oh I miss those things. I still haven’t discovered what mine are), yank ’em on and proceed about her daily duties.
they returned once & never again.
I never gave these sartorial choices much thought.
I, too, instinctively knew what “felt good” on my bod on any given day and I respected her decisions.
As long as it wasn’t inappropriate, I let her wear whatever she selected.
(I’d help only when asked.)
One morning, as she was about to climb on the bus “finger puffs” firmly in place, the husband called her back, hugged her, slipped the ‘puffs off and set her on her way.
I must have given him a quizzical look as he explained:
People judge. Sometimes, as parents, our job is to save her from herself.
I found this line of thought intriguing as it hadn’t occurred to me until he said it.
He was right, people might make snap judgements about her.
He was probably right, other kids might make snap judgements (here’s where he’s most likely entirely correct. I think at 45 I may have forgotten how unkind kids can be).
Yet, as a misfit who lives intuitively I spend my days making snap judgements.
I mainly frame it as going with my gut and assuming others are going with theirs.
People see my attire and make the snap judgement I workout all day.
I don’t, but I do strive to fit-in-fitness and #wycwyc my day as I work—so they’re not entirely wrong.
workout wear = my WORK WEAR!
People judge my book by its CrAzY cover and make snap-assumptions about me all the time.
And you know what? I’ll surrender much of the time they’re spot-on.
And when they’re not it’s often still a result of the way Ive dressed or styled or am choosing to carry my exterior.
These initial impressions color (tattoo pun intended) how we connect with those around us from first sight forward.
And all of this happens in a SNAP.
What do you think?
- When you’re honest with yourself–do you ever make snap judgements?
- Do you view these snaps as negative or as merely going with your gut?