quick! what do YOU think when you see this woman?
We’ve talked about the fact I’m working not to be judgmental.
For me, however, it all returns to semantics.
Judging is different from intuitive living.
Being judgemental with regards to other people’s actions/lives isn’t the same, in my experience, as making snap judgements about those around us.
Judging reveals more truths about us than the other person or people..
When framed in the gut-tapping way, I’m all in *favor* of the snap judgements.
Once upon a time the Child would assemble outfits based on instinct:
She’d dress her bod in what “felt right” (<—there’s that “gut” & intuitive living) and carry on with her day never giving her attire another thought.
One of my fave phases was when she’d top off each outfit with pink weight lifting gloves which she called her finger-puffs (?).
(sadly no puff pics can be found)
I never gave these sartorial selections much thought.
I, too, instinctively know what “feels good” to wear on any given day and respected her decisions.
As long as it wasn’t inappropriate, I let her wear whatever she’d chosen.
(I’d help, too, if asked.)
One morning, as she readied to board the school bus “finger puffs” firmly in place, the Husband called her back, hugged her, slipped off said ‘puffs and set her on her way.
In response to my quizzical look he explained:
People judge. As parents our job is to save her from herself.
I found this line of thought intriguing as it had never occurred to me until he shared it.
Sure, he was right. People could make snap judgements about how she looked and what she wore.
Perhaps, he was right. Kids might make snap judgements (At 40+ I may have forgotten how unkind kids can be?).
The difference was (here’s that nuance again) I frame it as going with my gut and assume others amble through life going with theirs.
People see my attire and make the snap judgement I workout all day.
Obviously I do not, but I do strive to fit-in-fitness and #wycwyc while I work—so their snaps aren’t entirely wrong.
workout wear = my WORK WEAR!
People judge my book by its CrAzY inked-up cover and make snap-assumptions about me, too.
And you know what? I’ll surrender much of the time their snaps are spot-on.
And, on occasions they’re not, the snap judgements are a direct result of the way Ive chosen to dress/present myself/am choosing to carry my exterior.
These initial impressions color (tattoo pun intended) how we connect with those around us from first sight forward.
And all of this happens in a SNAP.
What do you think?
- When you’re honest with yourself–do you make snap judgements about others?
- Do you view these snaps as negative or as merely going with your gut?