In previous episodes we’ve addressed my belief in the importance of quitting.
In a world which instructed me Stick with it! If you start something then finish it! I concluded years ago this wont work for me.
Along the same lines as how I don’t respond to certain varieties of encouragement, I decided unless it impacts others (that’s a post for a different day) anything I began was fair game for quitting, too.
To the thesaurus and an outsider they appear the same.
To the head and to the body there exists a profound difference.
Surrender feels like flow.
Surrendering results in a sensation of relief and not failure. Surrendering doesn’t feel like quitting–it feels like gifting myself space. Surrender doesn’t convey as an ugly end, but more resembles hitting pause. Surrender is calm. It means I’ve recognized a situation, even if only temporarily, has me stymied and it’s imperative I halt and reset.
Giving up means I’m emotional and pissed. It’s a hard stop in one direction (and not the fun, old-school kind).
Surrender feels like moderation.
At times my life seems crazypants. When I hit pause and choose to be still I’m able to identify what’s caused the crazy. 99% of the time the feeling of chaos has arisen because I’ve allowed myself to be knocked off kilter.
Surrender is acknowledging I’ve done what I can/made all the efforts and it’s time to let go. Surrender, for me, is hope. It’s yielding and not unflagging, intense toiling or focus.
Surrender feels s-l-o-w.
Quitting can be quick. Giving up can occur even more swiftly.
Surrender stems from my cranium.
Surrender is never impulsive. It’s a metaphorical (or if you’re Carla literal) throwing open of one’s arms as a sign to the Universe of readiness for a change in situation. Surrender attracts the new. Surrender is saying YES versus the full-stop NO of giving up.
Surrender is a decision.
I remind myself daily of the fact inaction is still an active choice. Even though no movement may be readily apparent when I choose to surrender I remain an engaged participant in my life. Surrender is consciously choosing a path.
For me giving up is selecting no path. Giving up is thrusting into reverse and attempting to retrace steps in an effort to find a way out.
Surrender, while to the uninitiated appearing milque toast on the surface, is definitive and decisive.
•Have you experienced/pondered the nuanced difference between surrendering and giving up?