The importance of mattering.


This is my favorite photo of my friend, Sue. Captured mid-laugh, unaware photo was taken, doing the double hand grab. (Ive absolutely no idea why I’m wearing that expression.) The you matter to me. I’m present with you. double hand grab is a perfect metaphor for Sue’s life. The first time we met I was [...]

The No Excuses! t-shirt exercise.


 It’s tee-shirt time.  Again.  I’ve got an eight year old sidekick who’d *love* to SHARPIE-up a tee and a college BFF who’s nothing if not honest.  Today’s my day.  Is today YOUR day? Ok, People. I’m passionate enough about this exercise I’m willing to put my *misfit heart* on the line & admit I really [...]

When is it ok to lie to your child?


Once upon a time, Mulan married Ken. Since we’ve moved the Husband’s work-hours have been long. Unpredictably long, mixed with travel, yet I don’t mind. There’s nothing we can do to change the situation, so I’ve shifted my perspective and discovered a glittery, silver lining. These stretches of solo parenting are a gift of time. [...]

Don’t compare you to…YOU.


These musings are an outgrowth of the comment above. Sort of. These musings are an outgrow of posts such as this one by a DoodleLovingBloggerIAdore and a BAD*SS squatter I admire. Kind of. These musings are an outgrowth of how I lead my life and something I recommitted to a few years ago. Completely. I’m [...]

Aging without fear.


A few weeks ago I shared the picture above on Facebook. It was sunny.  Charming was happy.  It was sunny.  I was happy.  It was sunny (did I mention that?). I felt content.  And, in a way I can’t capture in words, I felt like myself. I’ve experienced this so rarely lately I shoved my [...]

If at first you don’t succeed—quit!

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PRE-SOCCER GAME MONKEY BARS TIME!   I’m here to announce the Tornado has quit soccer. (collective gasp!) And I encouraged it. (louder gasp!) The thing is I’m a big believer in quitting. A quit’advocate if you will. A woman who’s BRAZEN enough to stand up and say she DOESN’T agree with the adage: A quitter [...]

Two steps to a bathing suit body!

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As this time edges near I think of last yrs sentiment: 2 steps 2a BATHINGSUIT BEACH BODY. #1 Put on suit #2 Go 2beach #stopthemadness — carla birnberg (@carla_birnberg) March 2, 2014   Ive thought about the above since I tweeted it close to three weeks ago. Ive skimmed magazines, read twitter, checked out Instagram, [...]

Creating a personal mantra.

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When I first began meditating I mocked the notion of a mantra. I now *cringe* at how I made fun of what I perceived to be jibberish syllables—the thing is back then I simply didn’t understand. And then I meditated. I attempted to quiet my monkey mind and quickly realized I needed more tools than [...]

Which of these friends do you have?

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I brought my funky friends dress shoes! I spent the past few days at a conference. The focus was learning & networking–but ever the misfit attending sparked me to consider my larger social experience. To ponder my introvert status and realize how much I need my community. Meeting so many amazing women served to highlight [...]

What if it all went away?


Gratitude is a tremendous part of our duo’s day-to-day living. A constant focus. It’s not so much the child has gone through an ungrateful stage (yet?)—-I just believe in focusing before the…fall. On prophylactic gratitude if you will. We have a lot for which to be grateful. A lot. Not so much even “stuff,” but [...]