I’ve been thinking that I should thank you for the MizFit site.
I sometimes tend to think “Wow you/this guest chef/this commenter is so fit/eats so healthily, I’m not nearly as ‘good’ as s/he is. I can’t do that.”
I’ve had an eating disorder for 12 years, and for the last ten of those years, it’s been a yo-yo between extremely restrictive eating and compulsive over-eating (which are just two sides of the same coin with my ED).
It’s only recently that I’ve started thinking of food as fuel, seeking better nutrition, and exercising for how it makes me feel and to keep my body healthy.
In the past, my #1 goal was to be “skinny.” When I read some posts/comments, the seemingly unattainable “ideal” comes back. There’s a “perfect” clean eating diet and a “perfect” physique (i.e. your famed MizFit arms).
My problem (and this is MY problem, not that of the website) is that I turn suggestions like removing the bun at fast-food restaurants into rules.
Instead of seeing that as *a* way to eat healthier, I see it as *the* way to eat healthily. So I forget that I would seldom dream of ordering a cheeseburger, Dr. Pepper, and french fries, not because I’m restricting myself from eating it, but because it sounds gross.
I sincerely don’t want that heavy, salty, greasy mess in my stomach.
I forget that I order grilled chicken sandwiches on whole wheat with no cheese and lots of veg because that’s what tastes good to me now.
I forget that I don’t buy foods with chemicals in them, that we have grilled or baked chicken breasts and complex carbs, that I serve veggies with every meal and make sure my son knows that some foods are fuel and some foods are just treats . . . in short, I forget that it’s all about taking steps to be healthier, not magically fitting some “perfect” mold.
I’ll admit that I have trouble not seeing this lifestyle change as a lose-weight-diet and that I sometimes catch myself looking for signs that I’ve lost weight or buying clothes that don’t fit “quite yet.”
You drop frequent reminders to avoid that mentality, and it actually works . . . cumulatively if not immediately.
Overall, I can say: your website has helped me be a healthier, happier person.
I wanted to post this letter NOT because of its compliments but despite them.
I want to let all of you sit with it and, if you’re so inclined, tell me what the email makes you think.
what fitness sites/blogs in general trigger you to feel?
are they motivating? do you read entries & think “GO YOU!!” & click away feeling empowered by the words youve read?
on other days, with less upbeat posts, do you stop for a moment & feel NORMALIZED knowing that others struggle as you do? uplifted by the opportunity to cheer onward someone who might be struggling?
I clearly recall posting what I eat and having a commenter remark that I wasnt eating clean by any stretch & telling me precisely why & what I should change/eliminate in my diet.
Now some of it is semantics (I chose the term ‘eating clean’ since I dont follow a known diet-plan such as South Beach) yet all of it (how I eat. how much I do or do not exercise) is created with the backdrop of “I can SO do this for the rest of my life!” in mind and definitely not perfection. As a result I didnt let the commenters words impact me either way.
This sentence?: this guest chef/this commenter is so fit/eats so healthily, I’m not nearly as ‘good’ as s/he is. I can’t do that.
I have to admit Id never pondered the notion of reading comments, sighing inwardly and thinking “
Crap. Why am I even bothering?!”
This: food as fuel, seeking better nutrition, and exercising for how it makes me feel and to keep my body healthy.
Entirely my goal and it’s emails such as the above which, I hope, help me to stay accountable, on track, and painfully aware of every word I type both here and on other people’s blogs.
(quick, awkward, disjoined subject change)
This next email I toss back at you, Oh Wise Bumbling Band:
How the heck do I get rid of this loose skin from my weight loss? I have muscle underneath my flesh, HOWEVER I still jiggle in the middle, on my inner thighs and tricep areas. It makes the whole losing weight thing frustrating because the only time I look good is in pants and long sleeved tops. And it’s inconvenient for summer time. PLEASE HELP!
In working with clients who have lost a great deal of weight (& Im unsure if this is the emailer’s experience) and have excess skin (not fat) they’ve either chosen to live with it or had it surgically removed.
Many times, with majormajor weight loss, there can be no other way to ‘lose’ or tighten the excess skin.
Anyone out there have firsthand experience with this? Had the surgery? Thoughts either way? Help a fellow MizFit out & hit us up in the comments.
(veering awkwardly again. this time into the weight room)
Last week you did the press for chest. can you show us the fly please?
The dumbbell fly is similar to the dumbbell press in its form (INHALE as you lower the weights slowly & EXHALE as, in one swift movement, you bring the weights back together).
The main difference is in how the dumbbells are held (see below).
It might help to think about hugging a barrel (or a keg. either way.) as that will remind you to keep your arms nice and rounded.