MizFit, do you have a workout partner? if not why not? I dont (none of my friends work out when I do) & dont really want a partner—but I need motivation.
I dont have a partner.
And I have to admit that I have more than a fleeting jealousy of this blogger and her workout friends. Much more than fleeting.
Back in the day (if by the day you mean pre-Tornado—-which I do) Ren Man and I lifted together.
We started when we were dating and did so for 12+ years.
I’d imagine were you to ask him he’d say Im a great partner (happy to be the motivator as far as getting to the gym and **happy** to be the cheertasker as far as encouraging him to lift more weight/reps) and a terrible partner (Im not good with the encouragement. If he said: come on!! three more!! and I knew I was finished at two more Id roll my eyes and throw set down the weights. ).
Right now I lift solo.
Our lifting together doesnt work (he’s at the gym when the daycare isnt open) & our weekends tend to be more filled with active *play* than anything else.
I guess I could find a different partner (Charlotte? wanna move to Texas?) but I really havent even looked for one as right now I rely more on my accountability partners.
People who dont workout with me but hold me accountable for my goals anyway.
People with whom Ive set up clear expectations so that both parties feel taken care of/looked out for but not nagged.
What do I mean by that?
At the outset my partners & I decided how often we wanna be nagged (check in with me once a week and ask if Ive worked on XYZ, please) and in precisely what fashion (email, phone, in person, text).
I learned the hard way that, when we didnt clarify the specifics up front (no matter how uber formal it sounds), one of us ended up feeling either nagged or ignored.
You might try something like the accountability partners (so easy to arrange as it can all be virtual) & see how it works for you as well.
HELP MizFit!! how do I know if I’ve found a good trainer?!
This is a question Ive receive pretty frequently & could rant about for post upon post.
That said, Im highly confident ya’ll have better things to do than listen to me ramble about the fact you should NOT select the trainer who checks herself out in the mirror every 3 seconds (while supposedly spotting you) nor should you think that simply because Trainer X has more letters behind his name than your physician it’s an indication of his fabulousity.
As a result Im going brief here, People.
In all confidence you’ll chime in below & anything Ive missed/give me your collective .02.
- Education or certification. This isnt the most important quality in my opinion (Ive seen some amazing trainers who have learned everything on their own) but it certainly helps. Find out whom their certifying body is and googlegooglegoogle to read more about it. There are a few standard respected ones (ACSM, ACE etc.) and more than a few “fill out this form and send us 500.00 and youre a trainer!” online offers. (Some people like to ask about CPR/first aid/liability insurance. I never thought to ask when I was seeking a trainer but was certified/had insurance when I served as a trainer.)
- EXPERIENCE. By this I dont mean years of training clients (we all need to start somewhere with a first client) but an interest-level/passion with regards to your population. Are you pregnant? looking to lose weight? gain muscle mass? Do you have a chronic injury you need to work around? Seek a trainer who has experience in YOUR arena.
- Do you like the person beyond the fact s/he’s a trainer. In my mind this is the first thing you should look for after assessing a trainer’s knowledge. Whether it’s one session or 400 you need to find a trainer you WANT to spend time with! I had clients 3x week for years who might have lasted a month with a different trainer. I also had employees with long-term clients who’d definitely have quit after one session with my celeb-gossiping self.
How do you know youve found a crappy not-good trainer? You wont need to ask!
If youve hired Suzy ItsAllAboutMe she wont listen to what you say (from basic chat to exercise questions), she’ll spend most of your session on her cell phone/chatting with gym members, fail to return your calls/emails in a timely fashion, and make the sessions more about her goals than yours.
I know Ive tossed a lot your way.
I start writing with brevity in mind. EDITEDIT (yes, you get the *short* versions) & the Viewer Mails still run long.
You’ll have that.
And now YOU.
Training partner thoughts? Love em? Loathe em? Long for one?
Have a trainer?
Did you bother to ask for references when you selected him or her?
Are you a trainer & do you offer references? free consultations?
Please to hit us all up in the comments.