A bit to my surprise—almost 365 days later—my wishes for my daughter (aka The Tornado) are pretty much the same.
She still adores how strong she & her mama are & is slowly learning that the word STRENGTH can refer to both mental & physical muscle.
I still frequently stumble upon her happily posing in the mirror.
She still rejoices when she notices she’s “getting másmásgrande Mama!” and taking up more space in the world.
A lot to my surprise, this impending Mother’s Day has me reflecting a more on my relationship with my mother.
It has me wondering what her wish was for me when I was the Tornado’s age & what it is today.
It has me mulling who she is outside of the role of mom and realizing (once again & to no small embarrassment) how little I know about the woman from whom I came.
It’s serving as a needed reminder that while she & I speak frequently so much of what we chat about focuses more on ME than it does on HER.
I like to think this is no accident (she’s pretty skilled at turning the conversation back to me when I ask about what’s happening with in her world. I think lots of it is the mother/daughter ‘roles’ can be challenging ones to shift away from)—but I also vow to make this the year I work to change that.
As a woman who believes there are signs everywhere (name the movie!) I recently discovered this book.
In it the author, Katherine Rosman, loses her mother to cancer and only after that works backwards to learn more about the woman she’d thought she’d known so well.
It repeatedly brought to mind the question: can we ever really wholly know our mothers while they are alive? or is the dynamic of caregiver/care-recipient one which limits this?
This is a query which I plan to spend the next 365 days attempting to answer in my own life.
As much as I can.
Id love to know if youve already answered this or, should you care to, if youd join me as well.
Have a great Mother’s Day weekend, American Peeps.
Ill report back to you on my findings in 2011.
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