And, since Im all about bringing others into the proverbial fray, I decided to see if I could lure a few of you into joining me.
Still I was surprised how many of you clicked on the photo above to make it bigger & emailed asking about it/commenting on how few excuses I had.
Believe me, Ren Man was being kind. The back of the shirt is crammed with tinier writing & a plethora of pathetic rationalizations.
So here’s my deal: Right now Im ok with regards to the exercise-piece.
Right now Im the Excuse Master of why Ive not yet started a picture book I claim to want to write. The book (the Tornado’s story) is my number one priority yet Im paralyzed with where to begin.
Except with regards to the excuse-making.
I seem NOT to be paralyzed there.
You see, in my opinion, excuses are something we tell ourselves to avoid taking action.
In this picture book instance that’s 100% me.
I want the book to be so mind blowingly amazetastic —-Im afraid to start.
Yet, even while mired in this paralysis, Im thisclose to realizing it would feel better to try & “fail” (if I try whether it can even be called failing is indeed debatable) than is does to carry these exhausting excuses around with me.
My realization after creating this last tee?
When I make an excuse to myself REPEATEDLY it becomes a belief. When I repeat this belief to myself (even subconsciously) it becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy.
My repeated excuse making has served to negate my taking personal responsibility for following through on something I *really* do wish to complete.
Im taking responsibility.
I give you the Five ways I will STOP MAKING EXCUSES & START moving forward today. By MizFit.
1. I will remind myself that success or failure is dependent on me. While this initially read as a little daunting Im choosing to view it as empowering. I am deciding to write this book. I am in control over whether I succeed (completion!) or fail (never starting). Hell, there are so many facets of my life where Im reliant upon others for success—I am choosing to view this as a gift. I am celebrating that it’s my choice.
2. I will be honest with myself. After making my tee (& I suggest you do this with yours as well!) I stepped back and soul-searched for a few days. Was I really making excuses or is the book honestly not a priority right now? My answer was Sister yer making some sad excuses! Take a moment and examine the issue your tee addresses. Is the part of your life where you’re excuseFILLED right now simply not a priority? That’s ok as well.
3. I will no longer be Rationalization McGee. I can not recall who said this (anyone?) but rationalization is our effort to hide shameful conduct from ourselves. While I dont *always* agree with that sentiment—-in this instance it’s true. My tee is crammed with I DONT HAVE TIME! excuses. For me what looks like laziness is actually fear. Fear that I wont be able to execute something as amazing as what’s in my creativebrain. Think about what you wrote on your shirt. Are any of your rationalizations more fear-based than anything else?
4. I will make PLANS not excuses. Im in touch enough with myself to realize that today I am feeling empowered—but tomorrow my good intentions may wane. This is ok. What I am now choosing to do is make plans not excuses. If Im not working as diligently as Id hoped on the book I will schedule time to do so—I wont revert to old behaviors and spout a litany of excuses why Im not.
5. I will become Ben Franklin(‘s quote). To know me at all is to be aware I personify Mr. Franklin’s well known early to bed adage. It’s far lesser know (unless youve been in my office) that I love this quote of his as well: He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else. It’s posted on the corner of my computer screen and, after going through the whole No Excuses! tee process again, I think it shall be posted a few other places too.
So there you have it.
What my No Excuses!tee was about this time around, why I believe Ive made excuses in the past and how I intended to overcome the excuse-habit.
Did you join me in this tee’venture?
Are you an excuse maker like I am or is your reason for rationalizing of a different type?
Have an tips, suggestions or words of encourgement for me as I strive to MAKE PLANS NOT EXCUSES?
Please to hit us all up in the comments.