Carla recently sent out a guest post request for the topic ‘Progress, not perfection.’
I jumped at the opportunity to guest post for her for a couple reasons.
- One, because I love reading words from this wise mizfit, and it’s an honor to contribute to her blog.
- Two, because it has been somewhat of a mantra for me.
Perfectionism is a personal struggle. A struggle I’ve become better at taming.
Some of my perfectionist faults are material.
We recently bought a new house, and I want the house to be ‘perfect’ now.
I want to buy ALL the things to make my house look like one of those in Better Homes and Gardens. I’m not all about designer things, but I do admit, I love to shop. But if I let the perfectionist win, we’d skip all the progress and go bankrupt.
My wants for material perfection have driven me to financial crises before, and luckily I’ve learned my lesson.
Besides, I am progressing towards a more ‘minimalist’ way of living. At least… I am trying. Evaluating wants versus needs. We will see how well my husband agrees with this one. He will agree with my extreme progress in other financial areas. But we’ll talk about the debt snowball some other time.
Seeing and acknowledging progress through my perfectionist eyes isn’t always easy.
I have struggled with perfection in my physical appearance before, and while I vow to never go back to ‘that place,’ (and I have not) I can’t help but have days where I don’t see progress, only imperfection.
This is when confidence kicks back in to remind myself how strong I am now.
How much HEALTHIER I am now. That I do my best to make healthy choices.
I may not be the perfection ‘vision’ of health, but I am a pretty good vision of balance.
And I’m HAPPIER now.
Happy and healthy are what count the most.
Perfection is deeply rooted in my career goals.
I am often driven by perfection in my work, and put my all into everything I do. Needless to say, when I don’t get a perfect outcome, I’m disappointed.
I finished graduate school with a PhD dissertation I’m quite proud of. But I couldn’t land the job I wanted.
Or, really, many interviews at all. That’s not to say I’m not 100% grateful for the opportunity I have, which will eventually get me where I want to be. But I am a perfectionist who wants results now, not later.
Never mind that I didn’t have to interview for this position – it was offered to me.
So, why focus on the ‘negative’ imperfections?
I’ve been doing much better at focusing on the positive.
Thankful I have great opportunities.
Thankful I am healthy.
Incredibly happy with the life I am living.
Knowing that each step forward I take is still progress.
There is no secret door to perfection, it’s all one big work in progress.
Once you realize that, you see less imperfections. You might even enjoy yourself a little bit more along the way!
- Do you struggle with a perfectionism?
Alysia lives in Dallas, TX. She blogs at Slim Sanity, and dedicates her personal and professional research goals toward living healthy, and enabling others do the same. You can follow her on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram.