Please to welcome Charlie and her response to my blog post about judging others.
There was another discussion this week about how busy I am, how I get up too early everyday to see Tom, (my boyfriend) and have breakfast with him before work and he wishes this wasn’t the case.
I completely understand that he’s annoyed that our morning interaction is me kissing him goodbye on the head in the pitch black (about 6.15am) while he grunts and rolls over.
It’s not ideal.
However I don’t know how to get around it.
I like to exercise in the morning, and with an earlier start time at my new job, my workout has to finish by 8.15 latest.
My marathon ban just adds to my own frustration when it comes to this argument.
Fighting over exercise isn’t something I’m new to.
I was told in an old job ‘no more lunchtime gym sessions’ as they would often run 5 mins over my hour lunchbreak (I would get in half an hour early to make up for this!).
Working in a team where exercise wasn’t a priority made it tough to justify leaving on time to get to a class or taking my lunch hour to workout.
I felt judged that I wasn’t working during my lunch hour like some of the others, despite the fact that it actually can lead to less productive work!
It’s a constant battle to exercise on vacation with both friends and family, where I’m told to just ‘relax’!
This IS what I do to relax!! Why don’t they understand that exercise can be fun, and a vacation is supposed to be fun! On a family holiday a few years, more than 3 members of my family spoke to me about their concern for my ‘unhealthy exercise habits’.
I workout regularly, about 5 days a week for no more than an hour, take at least one full rest days and like to stay active.
I’m fit, I’m healthy and I am an appropriate weight and BMI. I know long distance running can be harmful to your knees/body etc but I feel like I have a good balance of workouts, see a physio and generally try to look after myself as best I can.
What I don’t understand is why people think it’s ok to criticise your exercise behaviour, yet no-one mentions the person who drinks too much, is overweight or smokes heavily?
When I go out with friends, I find myself giving excuses as to why I have to leave early or not drink too much.
Usually it’s because I’m running the following morning, however this reason is met with groans and exclamations that it’s ‘so weird’ that I would get up early on a weekend morning to exercise.
Why is it weird not to want to wake up with a hangover that leaves me confined to the sofa all day, achieving nothing on my two days off?
It seems that a terrible hangover has bragging rights, whilst deciding to wake up early to run or workout out is judged as being odd.
This comes as reports announce that the recommended 150 minutes of exercise each week is ‘unrealistic’.
Perhaps if people shift their viewpoint towards exercise and see it as a necessary addition to our day, and not only that but see that it can be a relaxing, enjoyable past time, rather than a punishment and a tool only for losing weight, then there wouldn’t be so many overweight, unfit and unhappy people in the UK and USA.
Perhaps if it wasn’t so taboo to make judgements on those who make unhealthy lifestyle choices, and people actually celebrated healthy eating and exercise, then perhaps our healthcare systems might not be under so much pressure right now!
What do you think? Have you judged another for her lifestyle?
Charlie blogs at www.therunnerbeans.com where she strives to ‘pace the way to healthy’ without missing out on fun. She runs marathons, is working towards Boston Qualification, and tries to give every workout class in London a go! You can also follow her on twitter and instagram too.