Gratitude is a tremendous part of our duo’s day-to-day living.
A constant focus.
It’s not so much the Child has gone through an ungrateful stage (yet?)—-I just believe in focusing before the potential fall.
On prophylactic gratitude if you will.
We have a lot for which to be grateful.
Because of this fact I used to obsess about her becoming spoiled.
If she spies a flyer for a musical she loves and r-e-a-l-l-y wants to see again—I’ll do everything I can to get us tickets.
If she wants to try a new class or take lessons to supplement a passion—I’ll do everything I can to support her dream.
While I still fret about her being grateful (spend time with us & you’ll hear: attitude of gratitude!! more than you’d care to) I’ve decided until she’s ungrateful it’s OK for the above types of treats to flow her way.
Ive also noticed my nine year old learns more by watching than she would a lecture.
With regards to gratitude I practice daily what I long to preach.
This hasn’t always been easy for me.
Now that she’s older, however, it’s clicked.
She grasps the notion of feeling gratitude for things we cannot touch and which could easily be taken for granted.
Many times it makes this misfit-mama cry:
Still I’ve searched for a way to convey—on her level—how I feel gratitude for things I’ve always had.
- a warm home
Stuffs I view as necessities and which she’s always possessed in abundance as well.
I struggled to explain this concept until I spied a question which captured it perfectly:
What if you woke this morning with *only* what you were grateful for yesterday?
I posed this question to her and she immediately answered based on her previous night’s prayers:
Id have my Mama and my Charming and my good day at school.
Somehow, the way this question is phrased, made the idea of what she adored vanishing from lack of gratitude (my house! it’s very rainy outside!) finally click.
When I asked her the question it dawned on me I also needed the reminder (who knew?) to pause each day & act on what I (re)committed to living in 2014:
I am filled with gratitude for the problems I do not have.
I now turn this question toward you & she and I together await your response:
- What would today look like if you woke only with what you had gratitude for yesterday?