I’ve chosen to discover the good in situations no matter how the scenarios initially appear on the surface.
The thing is, I’d be lying if I didn’t also admit life feels stressful right now.
Nothing major, nothing earth shattering, but stressful to me nonetheless.
Being who I am, when I found myself consistently unable to locate comfort in my life-frazzle, I knew a change was needed. I shifted my mindset and became committed to eradicating it.
To eliminating allll the stress.
I invested so much time and energy in my effort to avoid feeling stressed I caused myself a whole lot more angst in the process!
A fact which was never, ever my intent.
It was time to pause, step back and re-examine how I approached pressures in my life.
Amount + Attitude = Key.
I reacquainted myself with the idea we control what we choose to label as ‘bad.’ I could harness the power of stress to work for rather than against me.
I needed to embrace my frazzle—not fight it.
I needed to finesse amounts where I could and not solely focus on worry-eradication.
Good stress helps us create positive momentum.
“Good stress” is a certain type of stress for sure, but it’s also the way we choose to approach the feeling in general.
Stress becomes more ‘good’ than ‘bad’ when we possess confidence we can handle what life throws our way versus living in the margins/viewing ourselves as consistently overwhelmed.
I’d unknowingly harnessed the power of stress in this fashion throughout my life.
In college (where I’d procrastinate/leave the majority of coursework until the final week of the semester) what I viewed as ‘good stress’ propelled me forward toward that A grade I desired.
More recently, as a freelance writer, looming deadlines motivated me to panic and kick ass in a way I would not if given an open-ended due date.
Stress demands I learn and grow and, as a result, I rise to the occasion.
Negative stress teaches us to be resilient & problem solve.
For the most part categorizing stress as negative is a result of our perception of situations. That said, whether the stress we experience is categorically negative or not it can still work for not against us.
Stress magnifies everything including what’s important to us. Stress, even the negative variety, serves as a reminder we care. While encountering negative stressors can feel scary they are simply a sign to be still, listen to what our brains and bodies tell us, and problem solve accordingly.
Short-term stress boosts immunity.
Short-term stress, unlike chronic stress, sparks our fight or flight feelings. This bodily response, a mobilization of resources lasting minutes or hours, also stimulates immune activity. Short bursts of stress improves alertness, performance and boosts memory. It can seem counter-intuitive, but short bouts of stress actually improves our brain power.
We can’t savor the stress-free if we haven’t experienced opposite.
So trite, right? If we don’t know the hard times we can’t truly know the good times! type stuff. And yet? It’s true. Experiencing bouts of stress (good or bad) reminds us to savor the frazzle-free days when we have them. Stress-filled periods highlight the gift and importance of thoroughly embracing/enjoying moments which we might otherwise take for granted. Stress, in its own wonky way, serves to remind us of the ease in life.
Keeping firmly in mind my re-commitment to Wayne Dyer I’ve made the conscious choice to reframe my stress-thoughts:
I AM…stressed and it’s a really good thing.
- Are you paralyzed by stressful emotions?
- Are you able to harness the power of the frazzle and make it work for you?