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  1. I don’t think I’m much of a worrier. Maybe that’s how I gained so much weight – it didn’t worry me.

    I get stressed out if things are ambiguous or up in the air, but as long as I know what’s going to happen I’m ok.

    Maybe worrying isn’t so bad. Keeps you from doing stupid things, like eating a sleeve of biscuits in a sitting.

  2. Maybe that’s how I gained so much weight – it didn’t worry me.
    ———
    I have been known to say precisely that, Christine, in my own way 🙂

    that I would perhaps benefit from being a smidge more Type A/a fretter as Id probably get MORE ACCOMPLISHED.

    I think it’s the ambiguous or up in the air worry that Im trying to avoid and find, as my life grows more complicated, there is so much more (sigh) of that involved.

    M

  3. The Bag Lady is a worrier.
    She has never heard that expression before.
    She’s going to ponder that and see if she can change her basic nature.
    She’s worried that she won’t be able to.

  4. No, I’ve never heard this quote…

    And I agree, I think sometimes I bring on worry by letting it manifest in my mind – and this leads to me almost making it come true.

    So, this is a good quote to ponder. What if we take an approach of gratitude over worry, fear, and scarcity…

    So, after hearing this, I’ll make it a goal this week to think grateful thoughts whenever I feel worry starting to build up.

  5. it is, IMO, not focusing on the LACK but seeing the abundance and then *that* is what flows back toward us.

    in life. in love. and not necessarily in money.

    and for me it is the superficial law of attraction as well.
    the drawing things into our sphere.

    (please to insert life changing story here involving our garage. its TINY SIZE. and how I used to so think IM GOING TO SCRAPE THE CAR ON THE SIDES OF THE GARAGE—-until I did.)

    M

  6. Great question!

    It does resonate with me. I’ve heard similar quotes before and I find it to be so true- I used to be a MAJOR worrier, so now when I worry about something I can recognize it more easily and take a step back to consider the consequences of worrying about it and if its really as big of a deal as I think it is.

    The funny thing about worrying about stuff is that most of the time when you’re worrying about something it never actually comes to pass. Which makes me feel better- I’ll get the first “twinges” of a worry, then remind myself that there’s no reason to worry because now its going to all be fine. And then I go about my merry way:)

    …all of which is, I suppose, a different way of interpreting that quote. I’m with Christine in that some *kinds* of worrying are okay. Or rather, there’s ways to turn worrying into your own advantage. Now that’s a real victory!

  7. Great quote.
    Sounds like my old therapist.
    He told me once that worrying about tomorrow wastes today, or something like that. I’ve adopted this attitude and I share it with friends, colleagues and younger classmates in graduate school. “In the end, everything will be OK. If its not OK, then it’s not the end.”

    Of course, normal worrying is good. But when it turns to anxiety and panic attacks, that is no good. I’ve stopped worrying as much as I used to about things I have no control over and things usually turn out just fine.

  8. ah! worrying right now is all my mind seems to be doing! We’re moving in about a week and a half and we still haven’t sold our house. I love the quote. I wish I could use it as inspiration enough to not worry right now!

  10. ok, hold on for a sec while I don my DEVILS ADVOCATE suit 🙂

    *is* normal worrying ok?

    of course I agree in the broad sense as if we worried about nothing we’d all be living in a trailer down by the river (RIP Chris Farley) BUT in many cases it’s simply wasted energy which can bring to fruition precisely what we DONT WANT.

    should we, instead, strive to turn our worries inside out (what im striving to do) and have it not be:

    Im never going to find anyone to marry me. Im gonna end up alone and eating cat food.

    BUT INSTEAD

    There is someone out there for me. I havent met him/her yet but when I do we shall unite and live in bliss with out 50 children who never have tantrums EVER.

    M.

  11. My question is, how do I tell my wife she needs to think about it, without getting my head ripped off?
    ——–

    tell her and dont worry about it?
    (RIMSHOT!)

    actually I said this to my husband a few years ago (the Ren Man is the, err, WAS THE consummate worries) and it was HE who reminded me about it this weekend.

    TOTALLY SHOCKED ME as I didnt think he even ‘heard me’ when I said it to him initially.

    I asked if he was fretting about XYZ at work and he paused, smiled, and parroted the phrase back to me.

    M.

  12. I’m definitely both an optimist, and not a worrier….usually. I’ve been known to get stressed from time to time, and I do have a big fear of death which causes me to have panic attacks once in a while, but in my day-to-day? Nah. Not a worrier.

    I’ve only heard the phrase from *you*, Mizfit, and it does resonate with me. I tend to have an attitude that things will just work out, and they usually do – I wonder if it’s the flip side of the quote and me subconsciously hoping to “attract” the good.

    Whoah. Sorry for the ramble. Good post & I love that your site is so whole-person and not only about body fitness. Thank you!

  13. I’ve never heard that quote, but it definitely rings true with me.

    It makes so much sense: why spend so much time worrying about things (especially things in the future that may or may not happen) – it just means I am spending time with negative thoughts! Even if it doesn’t bring the thing I am worrying about on, it still takes up my time and energy and makes me all nervous, usually for no reason. Great video today!

    Heather

  14. I think I might print that worry quote and put it on the wall at school.

    It certainly sings to me. I’ve been working for a long time on “not getting all bunged up about things I can’t control.” It is a waste of time and energy.

    I apply the same notion so “hate”. Typically teenagers will point out to me that I “hate” them. I usually say something like: Hating takes up a lot of time and energy. It’s exhausting. I have neither the time or energy to devote toward hating you or anyone else. I may not like your attitude or behavior, but I certainly don’t “hate” you.

    They usually sit there gaping at me, mouth open trying to figure out what I really mean. It ain’t rocket science. Since I stopped letting negative feelings fester about some of the precious darlings I work with, I’ve become a more effective teacher.

    same thing must apply to worrying – negative energy, wasted energy

  15. I’ve heard it before and I really needed to hear it again today….perfect timing. I have so many negative thoughts and worries going through my mind right now.

    I do believe in the law of attraction so hearing this today was the reminder that I needed to my thoughts where they need to be.

    Thanks Miz!

  16. Great quote.

    And whether or not one believes in the law of attraction, it can’t be denied that worrying is not fun. Less is better.

    I think its fine to be alert to possible negative outcomes and prepare; but it doesn’t help to keep revisiting that negative outcome and imagining how awful it would be.

    Prepare and move on, something I need to do a lot more of in my life. Thanks!

  17. good point, Crabby.

    none of us long for increased muscle tension, shortness of breath, irritability, sleeplessness, wrinkles (wink), lack of appetite or increased appetite (*waves hand*) and on and on and ON even if we think that the law of attraction is all a bunch of HOOEY!

    M.

  18. My first reaction to this was “I have to tell my mum that phrase!” She drives me CRAZY worrying about absolutely needlessly. I wish she could step back from it and get perspective and see that these things are tiny – it would give her so much more energy and she could get so much joy from life.

    I worry that she will worry herself away.

    AND YET I firmly believe that having that initial worrying impulse is what makes us thoughtful, caring people.

    We should not dismiss the gut worry altogether – like you say, the trick is to acknowledge it.

    THEN turn that initial “uh-oh” into something more constructive.

    TA x

  19. I used to be a total worrier. It ate away at me, it would keep me up at night. I do have a bit of OCD and I think that drives it. This is really stupid, but I still feel the need to have my house clean all the time in case someone stops by. I have let things go a little bit at a time and that has helped. I know I worry too much about the day to day stuff that doesn’t really matter because when we are on vacation or away from the house, my stress levels go way down…..even though the kids are with us.

    I am working on living in the present and enjoying the little moments more. That seems to be helping with my stress and worry. I hadn’t heard the quote before…..great one to think about! You are right……..I need to quit praying for stuff I don’t want 😉

  20. Good Morning! Never heard that quote. I know that when I am worrying about something, it’s my inner control freak demanding that I DO something. Sometimes it’s enough to just sit down and make a list of all the things that are piling up so that I can prioritize them or ask for help. Alfred E Neuman LIVES!

  21. Are you sure you’re not one of my split-personalities? I use that quote on my worry-wart hubby all the time!

    Which isn’t to say that I never worry, but it’s pretty minimal. Being negative is exhausting; I can’t keep it up very long.

  22. (thanks Marianne. for your comment, sure, but for your ALFRED recognition as well. I was always more of a MAD or CRACKED tween—never went the Tiger Beat route. I always was a MizFit)

    TA, thanks for making me think as always (and Im a one shot wonder with the facetimes so it’s always freeflow what I feel in my core).

    for me CONCERN and PUTTING MYSELF IN THE PLACE OF THE OTHER is what makes me (strive to be) thoughtful/caring.

    anyone else? is it worry? frettage about what others might think?

    annette? youve nailed it too. in that if youre PRESENT you cant be ruminating on what mightcould happen down the road.

    dragonmamma? I can only hope to be one of them. much of the advice youve given up in herre makes me think CRAP WHY DIDNT I THINK OF THAT?!

    and the negativity? AMEN SISTER. tiring and a sickmaker.

    Miz.

  24. I worry a lot more than I used to, mostly because I believe my job has turned me more and more into a Type A nutcase. I’ve tried to resist, MizFit, really I have. That’s not really me. But I’ve done what I had to do to be successful (or at least to get everything done that needed doing), and it’s definitely changed my personality. Can’t wait for the day when I go back to academia and potentially return to my previous, laid-back state.

    Also, I was in McKinney racing over the weekend. Stonebridge Ranch, suburbs of Dallas.

  25. Hadn’t heard the quote before, but I’m glad I’ve heard it now. It reminds me a little of a line from a John Prine song: “Stop wishing for bad luck and knocking on wood” (from Dear Abby, I think.)

    I *try* to keep my thoughts in check and when wonder turns to worry, re-focus. Some days are better than others. 🙂

  27. I took on a different perspective of guilt (past) and worry (future) last summer after a week long meditation workshop I attended. I found I used guilt and worry as ways to keep myself blocked. My ultimate goal is to be a media personality, preferably on TV. Last night my sister called to tell me the FoodNetwork is now accepting apps for the next season of the Next FoodNetwork Star. I want to apply, and then found myself getting stuck in worry “I’m not a trained chef, what if I have to cook fish (I don’t eat fish), what if, what if, what if.” I had to stop myself and say “what if you’re accepted…deal with these other things then, but for now get your 3 minute video done.”

    We get ahead of ourselves with worry and often miss out on so many opportunities. The media, I have to say, doesn’t help.

  28. I’m a part-time worrier. I can get paralyzed with fear to the point where I can get no work done. However, this quote reminds me of that Garth Brooks’ song “Unanswered Prayers”, as cheesy as that might sound. When I was going through my divorce, all I wanted to do was work things out with my ex, for everything to go back to how it was, etc., and I can’t tell you how many prayers I sent up asking for that. Well, it never happened, and you know, I’m a better person for it. I’ve definitely let go of a lot of my worries, but they do sometimes creep back up and visit.

  29. What a fantastic quote…I hadn’t heard that one before!

    Definitely great words to think about, especially since I get worried if I don’t have anything to worry about!

  30. Dunno if I’ve heard that quote put in that particular way, but I am familiar with the idea. If you worry about something, then you are calling it to you. Yes, I totally buy into the Law of Attraction and I use it all the time.
    I’m not a worrier. I always considered it a waste of energy. Granted, somethings I do worry about, but only if I’ve got legit cause.
    If I worry about not having enough, then I won’t have enough. Consequently I write myself an “abundance cheque” every new moon. It has worked magnificiently.
    The prosperity is beginning to show around my abdomen, however.

  31. for me it’s a ‘one moment at a time’ thing as well.

    From the big worries (what if Ren Man gets into a plane crash on his many travels) to the small (what if my editor loathes my article).

    The looming fears are almost easier for me as it’s crystal up in herre how ‘worrying’ about the crash can easily be viewed as ‘praying for what I don’t want’ it’s the smaller pieces which I can accidentally slip into the negative mindset (which it *is* in a way….if I hit SEND and immediately think WHAT IF SHE HATES IT?).

    Slackermama I know you were partially joking about the worrying if yer worry free—–but it’s what stacy saidimplied with the meditation.

    When you’re in the moment there’s no space for worry.

    And YES.

    We’re getting back to the BODYfitness realm tomorrow—–I just felt called to do an infusion of the mind (thanks shelley for your mentioning you didn’t mind. Pun intended. Sort of.)

    M.

  32. I originally heard it as. “Worry is a negative prayer.”

    From what I’ve seen, there’s a lot of truth to this saying.

    Also, “Worry is like a rocking chair, you use a lot of energy, but don’t go anywhere.” Of course, they hadn’t invented the treadmill at that point 🙂

  33. I don’t worry as much about ‘stuff’ now as I used to. I actually have become more of a “Okay, now that X has happened, what must be done to solve it?” Because at the point that something happens, you must move forward.
    I have become more forward process oriented than future process oriented, if that makes any sense.

    I do, however, worry a lot about my DH and something happening to him. Just for selfish reasons. I try not to worry, but it happens 🙂

    I do believe that negative thoughts and energy brings those back to you, so I strive to stay positive, and treat people with kindness.

  34. Never heard it before, but LOVE it. Not too long ago L & I decided that our mantra in the house would we be “we’ll get through it, we’ll figure it out, we’re a team” exactly because there was so much worrying going on in the house (mostly from me.) It’s exhausting for everyone and the vibe makes everything so BLAH. So we’ve been using this little mantra in the house and it has helped so much. Reaffirming that even if the worst happens, we WILL figure it out together, makes it easier for me not to freak out so much all the time. So YES, your quote does resonate with me deeply.

  36. I had never heard that before, but it is so true and I must stop with the worrying. I am quite the worry wart. (why do they call it a “wart”?????)

  37. I’ve never heard that quote. But it reminded me of several things:

    I recently had a cyber stalker situation (which started when a friend from school decided that he loved me and we were going to get married), but because I knew that the person didn’t have my address, I didn’t go to the police (if you take out an order of protection, your home address must be given to the person you want to stay away, as they have to know where they aren’t allowed to be). I ignored the calls, texts, e-mails, etc., but they drove BK up the wall.

    During this time, I got the impression that BK was having second thoughts about being with me, and after a lot of worrying about it, I told him that I was going to live my life the way that I needed to live it. If he didn’t like what I was doing, he could talk to me about it, as long as he understood that it was my life.

    I continue to remind him of this when I feel that he is upset with me, as he both loves my independence, and is sometimes frustrated that I won’t always do what he wants (Like when he asked me to skip my workout so I could watch football). And it’s stopped me from worrying about his having second thoughts about our relationship/being with me.

    And now that I’m not worrying about losing him, our relationship has gotten stronger/better, and things that used to send him running (the mere mention of kids) don’t.

    By the way, the stalker situation was handled by action as well.

  38. Fitarella? I love that. We have a family chant up in herre as well.
    (A post which is sadly coming…like it or not)

    I do think more frettange than I do mightcould be good….somewhere between you & me charlotte, perhaps?

    And FFTV? Because if it were to be called a Worry Fluffy CuddleBunny we’d all strive to be one!

    M.

  39. You changed your header!

    I love this phrase. First time I have heard it. This whole cancer situation with Sweetie has taught me things about worry. It’s really all out of our control. We can only have faith that all will be ok, or we will be handed the strength to deal with what is not ok.

  40. Fitarella! Me and my boyfriend are both terrible worriers and we say EXACTLY that to each other, almost to the word! I’m always amazed by how much it helps.

    Aw.

    TA x

  41. Just what Fitarella said! I try to change my worrying into positive stuff otherwise the “air” in my home gets bad! Being self employed in both my jobs, sometimes money worries are a HUGE thing, but I just keep telling myself the money will be there when we need it and so far it has!

    Our minds are amazing things!

    Thanks for the reminder MizFit…its always good!

  42. First of all, I am not kidding even a little when I say this: I need a picture of you, Miz, for my Gratitude Board.

    Worry is both my second nature and my nemesis. It seems to go hand-in-hand with OCD, and I have to disagree that it’s not a bad thing. It’s a horrible thing. It can be absolutely crippling and for me, at various points in my life, has been. It’s something I have be constantly vigilant about, because it’s deceptive: it FEELS like you’re being responsible and conscientious and aware, when in actuality you’re creating a psychological and physiological reaction that is counterproductive to just about everything.

    Maybe a little worry might not be a bad thing, but it never stays little. It builds upon itself; you start out worrying a little, but eventually you end up being a worry-addict…I think if it’s little, and productive, it’s not really worry. It’s mindfulness – being aware of the things that can be harmful to you and choosing to avoid them. It’s when it becomes compulsive and counter-productive and it’s all about things you can’t change or control that it really becomes ‘worry’. At least, that’s my feeling on it.

    I had not heard this quote, but “resonate” doesn’t even begin to describe what it does for me at this moment in time. As usual, these words came when I needed them most. I, too, believe very strongly in the Law of Attraction, and then I wonder why things seem to keep getting worse and harder even though I’m wearing myself to nothing trying to keep all the balls in the air…

    I already knew it was time to let go a little. But this quote reminds me why…and in a very eloquent, simple way. 🙂

    Thanks again, Miz!

    V.

  43. I love the quote. It is so much better than what people use to always say to me, which was “the things you worry about never happen”… not only is that not true – I would spend time TRYING to make sure I had worried about every possible negative thing, so that it wouldn’t happen. Messed up.

    Actually, worry has ruled my life at points – and the interesting thing is – I am a very laid back person in day-to-day stuff. I just worried about the BIG things.

    Luckily, I’ve learned (through help) to stop that. The best thing for me has been coming to terms with no matter what happens – I WILL handle it somehow. Plus, I have a great support system in my husband and family – and I just have to have faith that everything will be ok.

    I don’t really equate worry with stress… when people say some normal worry is good… I’m not sure I agree. I think some worry is normal (are your kids late getting home? did husband not call when he said he would?) but it’s not really good. It doesn’t help anything. I think maybe pressure to get things done – like deadlines at work or a visit from the inlaws 😉 (the only way I can get me house really clean) is the type of stress that can be good and give us a jumpstart to get busy. But worry? Yuck.

  45. Had not heard this quote before but think it is genius and so applicable to me. I am a worrier big time but think this quote could help me get away from that.

    Oh and thanks for the accountability check in Miz, I did get that 4th run in last week 🙂

  47. yep sassy new header. now to do something about my real life header. it’s call out for purple.

    Angie I FEEL YOU being 100% selfemployed as well. I can oft be heard saying: money? thats not a worry. it’s everywhere. what’s REALLY your stress?

    believe it? sometimes.
    wanna put it out in the world? fo’shizzle.

    Valerie? back atcha. in that honored doesnt begin to describe what I feel. whenever I hit an I CAN NOT DO MIZFIT ANYLONGER. I NEED TO TAKE THAT TIME TO MAKE MONEY place—–I remember that there is a far greater measure of our time on earth than a bank acct.

    Melany? and, as I said before, for some reason for *me* the big things were the easiest to cease worrying about.

    Lori? do you worry about SuperNoots’ success? and if NOT perhaps that’s why it has taken off as it has?

    food for thought. for me anyway.

    M., who found this (CLICK HERE) about the wart-origin. for what it’s worth. I like my answer better 🙂

  48. i just have to ask, who/how are some of y’all posting comments at 2:16 in the morning? Are you abroad or something? That’s serious dedication.

    Anyways, I think I’ve heard this quote once, maybe even in therapy. I find that when I’m least busy is when I worry/obsess more. When I’m tied down with tons of assignments, I don’t have time to freak out over little things. And I come from a family of hardcore fresker-outers (happy Jewish new yeay, BTW, wink wink.) Maybe that’s why I’m always so go, go go, trying to avoid downtime and the inevitable worrying (did I turn off the stove? Is this lump a goiter or a pimple?)

  49. *raising my hand* over here.
    no haven’t heard the quote. been praying for my legs to heel. maybe I’m just bringing it on …
    need to change my channels of thinking.

  50. I have not heard that exact phrase before but I like it. The only issue I have with it is the possibility of self blame that can come along with it (after the event) . If something tragic happens in one’s life, we all try to look to see if there was some way of avoiding it or something one could have done to stop it from happening to us. So, while I feel like it is so important to try to focus on bringing positive things into your life- we must not fall into the trap of feeling we “thought it into existence” when tragedy occurs OR we might get STUCK there! You know what I mean? Maybe this thought comes to me because I work with people day in and out who are suffering from trauma…. just something I am thinking about! I know YOU are referring to worrying about things BEFORE they happen.

  51. I have not heard that before.

    In fact I have always been a Creature of Superstition: if I can imagine it and worry about it, it’s not going to happen. It’s the things I don’t worry about that will creep up on me and hurt me.

    Foolish, obviously. Nobody ever outwitted death or heartache by worrying about them. I like the concept of thinking about those repetitious thoughts as prayers. Perhaps if I repeat this to myself enough it can replace some of the worrying.

  52. Never heard that quote, but it makes perfect sense! Like the law of attraction (which I’m not saying I buy into)… if you worry it can come.

    Adding that to my quote list.

  53. That is a brilliant quote and I am making it part of my view now.

    Another powerful way I heard it explained was that worry makes you experience the unwanted an extra time, just by experiencing it in your head.

    If it does happen, you go through it twice (once in reality and once in your head).

    If it doesn’t happen, you’ve gone through it in your head.

    Thanks for starting my day with this. And for your Perfect Moment!

  54. I worry all the time (anxiety ridden). But, as much as we talk about and I teach self fufilling prophecies I still fall into the trap. My big issue is worrying about school…or that someone will get hurt that I love.

    We’ve all (maybe it’s just me? I dont’ have them anymore!) had friends that constantly accused their partners of cheating and what happens? Either they are left or get cheated on. Most of the time you bring about behaviors in people that you expect but that they might not have exhibited (like the mowhawk kid with tats you think is a jerk and a “punk”).

    What I do is relaxation stuff and try journaling (including blogging :). We all have our own little issues, but I figure as long as we work on them then I think it’s all we can do!

  56. worry makes you experience the unwanted an extra time, just by experiencing it in your head.

    wow. a totally different way of looking at it. great point.

    and tfh? we’re so different! (who knew?)
    Ive been known to say to Ren Man about goals/dreams:

    I cant envision it happening. at all.

    and he knows that I then believe it wont.

    for me the ability to see in my minds eye (hello Oprah! greetings entire family packed up for a year long volunteering trek!) means that it will, someday, come to fruition.

    M.

  57. I hadn’t heard the quotation before. I’ll have to ponder it. My anti-worry thought is “don’t borrow sorrow”–don’t give emotional energy to something that hasn’t even happened.

  58. Had not heard the quote that way before.
    But I grew up with the same message.
    My grandma (who had the most infectious smile, you’ve ever seen) always said “vorschusssorgen”
    Which translates as “pre-worries” They are the worst worries, better not to have them.
    My own life has clearly shown this to be true.
    As to law of attraction, (this time grandpa) my grandpa always taught me; “who does good, meets good”
    I live this to the fullest!
    And it’s wonderful to see that my children have picked up on it. They often say when they are out with me; “dad, everybody likes you! and they seem so happy to see you and talk to you”? I always answer with, “it’s because I’m happy to see and talk to them too”

    Marc

  59. Hi Mizfit. I’m responding to your comment on my blog. I can’t find your email address here, so I thought I’d leave a comment and ask you to email me for the recipe. 🙂

  60. Un huh.. I’m a chronic worrier. Tis a hard habit to break. It creeps in and talks to you no matter how determined you might be to ignore it. I don’t disagree with any of the quotes. I just don’t know how to turn those thoughts off.

    Happy RH to you. 🙂

  61. hmmm…for some reason I couldn’t get the video to play! wah! But by reading the comments I get the gist of it. I am sorry to say I have actually become more of a worrywart…probably to do with my situation and the fact that Bush & Co. are still charge. *sigh*

    L’shana tova back at ya!

  62. wow, i hadn’t heard that before, but dang does it resonate. worriers run in my family. i’m going to take the awesome quotes and reminders from here and start posting them on my new fridge (moving thurs). i should really stop worrying… something to work on!

    maybe we can work out a trade, i come and cook for you, you train my @ss for a week 😉

  63. This is the PERFECT quote for me right now. I struggle with worrying too much every single day. But I am conscious of it and it is something I try to reign in.

    This quote gives me even more ammo when my inner voice will just not stop – what if this and what if that and what did that mean, and so on…

    I’ll put this on my gratitude board. Thank you MizFit

  64. and a Happy New Year to you…I wish you continued goodness, sweetness,joy, health and peace for you and the Mizfit fam. Speaking of praying, very cool quote. It totally goes with the whole law of attraction theory. I am no expert on it..but I have heard about /discussed it with others and it sounds pretty logical. Maybe this is a good time to look into it further..thanx for setting the wheels in motion.

    I must thank you for the introduction to Supernoots! My son, who’s food groups are– candy, hot dogs, lucky charms, buttered noodles and more candy, has really warmed up to the “program”. His birthday is on Sunday and he asked if he can add an extra “treat” on Sunday. (which is amazing , since on one’s bday..isn’t it treats ALL day?)He is eating better already..and I am so happy!! TYTYT. I know..I should probably be leaving this on the SN site..but wanted to let you know you helped!!!

    Now, I need to apply it to my own eating habits!!

    Have a good holiday.
    {{{hugs}}}

  65. I have heard that quote before.
    Post chemo, one of the scariest things I had heard (and read about) was that cancery people often spend time wondering/worrying *when* (if?) the cancer will return?

    My friend, Kathy says the best revenge (against cancer) is to get on with your life. And I have gotten on with my life. And this is not just in respect to cancer but in most aspects. I sometimes think about cancer coming back but I don’t waste much time on it. That would be like giving in to it. I have more important things to do with my time.

  68. I never heard that quote before but absolutely love it. You can’t make it much simpler than that. Thanks for another bout of inspiration!

  69. I have not heard that quote, but I like it. I tend to worry about things that do not matter, and sometimes not enough about things that do.

    What is the name of the writing workshop?

  70. as always you guys have amazinginsightful comments.

    And, it’s with a smidge of hesitation I urge you all to clickclick on POD whom I deem a Warrior Woman even if she’d beg to differ.

    Fast MizFit TipNotInPost:

    Once upon a time I had a lot of worries.
    Lots.
    So I bought one of those knit necklace sacks that deadheads wear to carry crystals (or other treats (wink)) and commenced wearing it around my neck.

    Everytime a fret popped to mind I jotted it on a scrap of paper, tucked it in the sack, and let it GO.

    It was a babystep for me to the ceasing to pray for things I didn’t want.

    (And no. The bag didn’t soon resemble a ‘ bulging feed sack’ though I thought it mightwould)

    The class, runjess? through the tx writers league.

    Ill email you!
    M.

  71. Miz, actually, come to think of it, I DON’T worry about the SuperNoots business, via comment 46. I am really amazed at this (Is it possible to be too busy to worry? I don’t think so)!

    Maybe because it’s a passion project?? I mean, geez, I worry about my kids enough to drive myself and everyone around me crazy! I’ll really have think about this more!!!

    And SUSIE!!!!! Miz emailed me what you wrote and I skipped on over here to see for myself!!!!! How sweet, and I am SO honored and feel SO blessed that you and your son are enjoying SuperNoots. Comments like these make my heart just soar, so thank you thank you thank you for the sweet words. 🙂

  72. I have not heard that quote before, but I will use it going forward. I no longer worry as much as I used to. I’ve learned that whatever comes my way in the course of a day/week/month can be & will be dealt with, good or bad. I take a deep breath, say a prayer or two and move on. Life doesn’t wait.

  73. Ok, I can’t watch the clip at work, and now I’m dying to see it! First thing when I get home! LOL

    Re: the Law of Attraction – when you take it one step further/delve deeper, you learn (if you believe in it, which I do) that you get whatever you’re emotionally invested in. That’s why if you repeat what you’re grateful for without actually FEELING grateful, and worry about the opposite while FEELING worried, you’ll get what you worried about. You’re more invested in the worry.

    For that reason (though she didn’t use the same language) Mother Teresa never participated in an anti-war rally. She participated in numerous peace rallies, but never an anti-war rally. When someone finally asked why, she answered that if she was working against war, she was still focusing on the existence of war, but that if she was working for peace, she was focusing on generating peace. Same principle. 🙂

  75. SO WELL PHRASED Marste.

    an extension of this, in a way, is what Martha Beck talks about with reference to the law of attraction.

    when we are operating not from our core of peace but from the shallows (a concept which, IMO, kinda works even if you do believe the law of attraction is the aforementioned HOOEY)

    that when we runrunrun from the things we fear and grasp frantically at that which we desire (Im paraphrasing here. please not to sue me Ms.Beck for shoving words in your piehole via my thumbs) we begin to REPEL what we are actually wanting.

    In the shallows, IMO, would be the using of the law of attraction to get things…or stuff…purely for the ‘stuffness of it all’

    when we/Im at the core of peace Ive managed to release expecting other things or other people to make me happy—-that’s when it all flows back to you/one whether you want it 🙂 or not.

    and ramble complete.

    I know.

    but I thumbtype like a maniac because I love.

    Miz.

  76. I had not heard that quote before – but it’s fantastic. I’ll definitely have to think about it for awhile. I think it’s absolutely true. I think it will be hard work to change my natural response to stress (which is to fret & worry until it’s over), but it never occurred to me that it was probably, at least in part, self-fulfilling prophecy.

    Thanks for sharing!

  77. I’ve never heard it worded quite that way before. Me likes :-)!!!

    Generally a “can do” attitude gets things done. I always like hearing little sayings like this.

    Rock on girl, another great face time!

  78. I think there are different kinds of worries, but the vast majority of people worry about things that have a high probability of happening: concerns over health, job loss, that sort of thing. I also think that if we simply dismiss our worries (or offer them up, or surrender to them, or whatever you want to call it) we do ourselves a grave disservice. Because I don’t know if worry ATTRACTS the thing we’re worrying about it, but I DO know that if you don’t take action it often finds you.

    Worry is a prod, and stress can be an inspiration. The problem isn’t having worries which cause us to take action, but worries that paralyze us into inaction. Those are pure poison.

    Then, it really isn’t so much an issue of “worry” as it is “empowerment” If you are empowered, you can experience worry and move forward without getting stuck into a downward spiral.

    No, I’ve never heard the quote before… but I do have one for you 🙂

    Nerves and butterflies are fine – they’re a physical sign that you’re mentally ready and eager. You have to get the butterflies to fly in formation, that’s the trick. ~Steve Bull

  79. I haven’t heard this quote before. But looking at America’s financial troubles, and the stock market’s reactions, I’m thinking that if people only BELIEVED more and worried less, things would look much much better.

    Shana Tova. 🙂

  81. I’d never heard that before, but it definitely resonates. I can’t think of a specific worry to immediately apply it to, more of that vague “sky is falling” type of anxiety!

  82. I had never heard the quote before. It does make sense. i also agree on the law of attraction but it is something that I have to work at to stay positive.

  83. “that when we runrunrun from the things we fear and grasp frantically at that which we desire (Im paraphrasing here. please not to sue me Ms.Beck for shoving words in your piehole via my thumbs) we begin to REPEL what we are actually wanting.”

    Ezzackly. Also, this isn’t a great analogy, but my sister trains dogs. (Bear with me, I have a point.) When a strange dog approaches you, you should NEVER run from it. If it’s growling and mean, you can walk away slowly, but DON’T RUN.

    Why? Because when you run, you look like a prey animal. You look like LUNCH and the dog will chase you.

    Likewise, if you chase an animal, it will run FROM you, because you look like a predator.

    It works that way in the microcosm and macrocosm: when you run from what you’re afraid of, it will chase you. When you run toward something with desperation it will run from you. The key, like with a dog, is to stand still and be quiet. Be grateful for what you want, even if you don’t have it yet. Be grateful that it’s out there to be had, and be grateful on behalf of those who already have it. Then, just like an animal, the worries eventually get bored and wander off, and the things you want come to you.

    Erm. Here endeth the “energy woo-woo.” LOL

  84. WOW! I have not heard that quote before but that is a great one. I am a worrier. I have such worries right now about money and the economy and my husband’s job or lack there of.

    I Love that quote. That has really given me something to think about. Another opportunity to change the way I think! LOVE IT!

  85. I couldn’t get the video to play either…boo! But I come from a long line of worriers and it’s a hard habit to break. I really have to come at it very consciously.

    I’m a big believer that there’s a force looking out for us and I’m a huge believer in karma, too. I read this quote once: “Worrying is an attenuated form of atheism.”

    That was really food for thought for me.

  86. I can’t find an e-mail for you, but was wondering about your take on the whole soy good versus bad theories. It seems like this ingredient is in everything.

  87. Sometimes I do worry too much. It’s a habit that it’s difficult to break. However, I do try to stay positive and pray for the things that I do want.

  88. kate? thanks so much for your thoughts and the quote. I hadnt heard that before. and the formation? a constant struggle up in herre.

    and Id not heard that quote either, dara, and yet it makes a ton of sense.

    worrying, Im oft told by a friend, is simply living a fear based life.

    do with that what you will….
    🙂

    Miz.

  89. Totally off topic here but WOW – you get so many comments per posts! Do you have time to read them all? Know that you inspire so many…we love coming here 🙂

  91. oh BL you always make me laugh…I just dont, you know, want you to feel pressure to always make me laugh 😉

    and Donnalouise? I do read every comment. I actually (NERD ALERT! NERD ALERT) have them sent to my handheld as Im gone from the computer most of the day so I can read em as they are posted.

    that’s for saying that about my being inspiring.
    it’s appreciated. especially on the days I feel LESS THAN SO.

    M.

  92. Great quote MizFit! I think we send energy to anything we focus on, and when you worry you focus on the negative and are basically sending energy to the problem and helping it grow. I believe in dealing with problems head on, but if there’s nothing you can do about a problem, worrying about it will not only not help, it will also make the problem grow.

  93. Haha, The Cub and I have been watching CNN all day and have been alternately worrying and joking about the economic situation.

    My grandma is a major worrier and I hear that her mom was even worse. My mom claims to be the ‘new and improved version’ and I’d like to think that I am even new-er and more improved-er. =)

    BTW: Your arms look AMAZING. “Bananas” to quote Rachel Zoe.

  94. I can’t tell you how much I needed to hear this today. In general, I’m not a worrier. But what’s going on with our country’s financial crisis has got me more scared than I’ve ever been in my life. And I’m consumed by worry right now.

    I’ve never heard this quote before today. I’m going to make myself start praying for peace & relief and stop making myself crazy sick with worry.

  95. MizFit: Somehow your topic resonates so much with me, since I have been a chronic worrier most of my life. I was like this even if somehow I knew worry only would make me suffer more, since I suffered thinking in what could happen and then suffered if it happened.

    The last two years, though, I have managed to keep worry controlled (even if things have not been as good as in previous years) and it is amazing the quality of life I get doing that. I do not know if the things I want are going to happen or not if I worry less, but I know for a FACT that I am happier thinking ‘everything will be fine’ than ‘we’re going straight to disaster if we continue like this’. And people around me are better with me. Why did I stop worrying? I believe I reached a point when I could not take any more suffering and my mind said ‘enough’, no more worries, actions. I think we can do it if we really really think what is better for us and for people we love.

  96. It most certainly resonates with me. With every possibility, my thoughts will draw up a possibility of failure immediately. I think it’s something I learned from my parents. I see them doing still. It’s something I hope to weed out of my thoughts. So with every negative thought, I try to reverse it into something positive.

  97. Ding…light bulb just went off…thanks for the share. I do believe I’ve heard it before, but it just now hit me. Hello, law of attraction!!! So true, and I am going to be more conscious of my thoughts and worries from now on….or perhaps less conscious of my worries 🙂

    xo,
    -Bex

  98. I’m one of the not-worrying types. I leave that to my Type A ambitious go-getter husband. I’m more the laid-back go-with-the-flow type. I only worry if I am currently running late to pick up my kid from the bus stop or something (he’s too little to go home alone). Even then I’m not that worried because I know one of my friends or the bus driver will look after him until I arrive.

    Still, loved the quote. I do go through brief periods of worry (I’m only human) and I know I’ll need that quote stored somewhere in the back of my brain next time that happens.

  100. In general, I’m not a worrier. But what’s going on with our country’s financial crisis has got me more scared than I’ve ever been in my life. And I’m consumed by worry right now.

    Laura, I hadnt thought much about that until you posted your comment.
    not the crisis (Ive thought a great deal about that) but that THAT could have been a subconscious trigger for me.

    it’s precisely the kind of worry I meant.
    the larger, overarching, NOT MUCH WE CAN REALLY DO ABOUT IT worry.

    thanks,

    M.

  101. That’s a great quote. It sounds kinda like the strategy I use when I think about something negative — I immediately try my best to think about something positive, too.

    Like when I wake up and dread going to work. First thought: “Woe is me.” Second follow-up thought: “At least I’m not digging ditches in the hot sun today.”

  102. Ugh, the problem with catching up with my blog friends at the end of the week is that you often miss the messages you need. I needed this Monday as I was gearing up with worry before my sonogram Wednesday. My worry was wasted. Despite being “elderly multipara” they couldn’t find a darn thing wrong with this babe. And the gratitude? Freakin’ overwhelming. This post helped bring back to my consciousness one of my favorite sayings I memorized so so long ago: “Hold thought steadfast to the enduring, the good, and the true and they will enter your life proportionate to the occupancy of your thoughts.”

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