Are girl squads the new cliques?


Birthday party, Mr. McFeely & Girl Squad?  I don't remember much from elementary school when it comes to friendships, exclusivity and cliques. I don't have memories of girls who weren't friendly or who closed ranks of cliques and left me on the outside. Do you recall any of that? I once asked my mom. I don't, but I wonder if it's the benevolence of memory? You were lucky, she ... Continue Reading

Starting my second life.


the night of my 30th birthday.  I have a number of friends---apparently I hang with a younger crowd--who've turned 30 this year. For many of them the transition from 20's to 30 has been challenging. A sense of leaving the freedom of youth behind and of the fact it's time to (finger quote) buckle down (unF.Q.) and commence adulting. or any day, really... 30 for me didn't feel like a ... Continue Reading

What book should be on my shelf?


my personal first aid kit contains a fave! We all have self- definitions. While this can be limiting at times, for the sake of today's navel gazings post, it's not. For today we are going to choose to view self-definitions as merely information on how we see/view ourselves. A chunk of my self-definition is I'm a voracious reader. A piece of my self-definition is: I struggle to find ... Continue Reading

Roller skating is my new favorite.

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Moving back to Austin has required a shifting of mindset. A remembering of ooh yes, summer is when we bring movement indoors unlike our time in Oakland. This summer we've done lottsa free creative stuff (indoor obstacle courses, duct tape hopscotch grids etc.) but, eventually, it was time to pry open the wallet. Trampoline parks.  Bowling. Indoor mini-golf. Rock walls. Finally I had ... Continue Reading

Youre my favorite thing to do (guest post)

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The Hubs and I rescued this pitbull two years ago. He's anxious, sometimes unpredictable, and early on, there were moments when he was downright scary. We didn't know his history. His behaviour and responses were like nothing we'd encountered in previous pets.  We wondered how to train him.  We worried if we didn't fix him address the behaviours, he'd do something really ... Continue Reading

Im no ringmaster.

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This re-post is dedicated to a group of women who, on those days where I feel as though Ive been thrust into the Ringmaster role, rush to remind me it isn't my circus. (this is her monkey) I know this is a crazy week for many of us USA types. It seems we are all a bit frantic.  Some are off on vacation with, hopefully, more time spent frolicking than online. Others are trolling ... Continue Reading

Skinny shaming.


A few months ago I was asked to speak on a panel about fat shaming and skinny shaming. To say I wasn't all that excited would have been an understatement. I felt ill-equipped to address the gravity of fat shaming. I'd experienced through my clients. I'd not experienced it myself. And skinny shaming? A term that’s used to describe the act of degrading or insulting someone for being ... Continue Reading

The Mom Manifesto (guest post).

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I am almost at a loss to write an introduction to this guest post. Mish is a woman I've long admired.  A woman I met back in her single days.  She was markedly younger than I, yet I'd often find myself thanking her for sharing life-insights & telling her how wise beyond her years she was. Mish is a trailblazer.  She launched the EXPOSED movement, touched many lives and did it all without ... Continue Reading

Repetition is the key to mastery


this took repetition for me to re-master at 46. (photocredit 9 year old) When we lived in Oakland we had a marriage counselor whose name auto-corrected to Dr. Creepy. Remember, we have Dr. Creepy today!  Dr. Creepy called... That tidbit is only tangentially related to my post, yet each time I think about it I smile. So I share it with you. Currently, Lately I've realized (thanks to ... Continue Reading