There’s beauty in being stuck (guest post).

by

Screen Shot 2016-01-09 at 4.24.49 PM

There’s beauty in being stuck.

I promise you this.

It’s the season of New Years Resolutions, gym memberships, detoxes and ‘this year I am going to…’

I am ALL for change.

I think we have this new beautiful chance in a year (and really every day) to make a new a part of our lives which can catapult us or bring us down to where we’ve always wanted to be.

But so many of us don’t do it.

I am one of those people.

Having struggled with my weight for 28 years and I have gained back a large portion of the weight I have lost over the past 8 years.

I have battled…a warrior in some ways…against the ingrained view of myself which is negative.

It’s stuck.

I have wanted to move and I’ve tried everything to do it. I have dieted, eaten 500 calories everyday for month, cut out food, spent thousands on memberships of all kinds.

But I kept gaining and gaining.

I’m not stupid. I’m educated. I know what foods I should be eating and how much exercise I should be doing. In fact, through the past 15 years of dieting I feel like I could/am and expert in this area.

Yet, I kept failing.

I kept gaining.

I kept spinning my wheels and got further and further stuck in the quicksand.

I wasn’t embracing my stuck. Why was I staying this stuck for so long when I KNEW what I needed to be doing?!

What is the ‘stuck’ giving you?

The ‘stuck’ is rich with so many lessons and insight.

I am a firm believer that the reason why you are NOT changing is bigger then your why.

We can all write down WHY we want to change (and there is validity in this and I encourage you to do this) BUT the reasons you are staying stuck is so rich with knowledge which can help you affirm your why really change your life.

I’ve stayed stuck because I’m scared and I’m fearful of my power.

I’m scared of my own success and I’m incredibly fearful of failure.

So instead of doing something amazing for myself and my health, I have stayed stuck and it’s enabled me to hide and to be where I’m comfortable.

It’s enabled me to retreat against the disappointment that was catapulted about me 8 years ago.

It’s been a barrier, a hibernation of sorts.

I share this, because only recently did I explore my STUCK.

We can will ourselves to lose weight, but if we don’t drill down into how the stuck is serving us we won’t have lasting change.

Stop and explore your stuck.

I promise it contains beautiful lessons.

 

Mish is a blogger who writes about life, change, weight loss and offers daily musings on being a happy, diet-coke drinking hippie.

POSTS BY EMAIL

Never miss a post. Enter your email to get my latest posts delivered to your inbox.

Comments

    • that is SUCH a good question and I’m not sure I’m a total expert on it. But on of the things which I LOVE doing is helping women in this journey. For me, it’s really about acknowledging first that I’m stuck and then driving down to the root if it.

      Is it self-love, self-respect, perfectionism, control, grief, anger –> then then working on that specific or specific areas. I choose to incorporate modalities such a kinesiology (Which in australia is different then USA) , sacral cranial work, energy healers, massage, acupuncture and essential oils. I also love meditation.

      But for me I had to work around the core belief system that I had and unwind it with meditation, oils, kinseology and positive affirmations.

      • Wow. That is interesting. I need to think about all of this and work to clearly identify my stuck.

  3. This reminds me a lot of enabling. I wonder if my stuck is enabling me to stay where I am?
    I think it is. I also think I might not be ready to move on yet.

  4. Yes! Being stuck meets our human needs and it’s in this space that we do get beyond our “why” to see our “why not” more clearly. You’re not alone in this. Thanks for sharing!

  5. This is wonderful work you are doing!
    Everyone has something they are “Stuck” with – I certainly do.
    I love it when I can read something that makes me think, it is the reason why I write.
    Thank you for sharing with us and giving me something to inspire me on this cold, wintery morning.

  6. I am “stuck” in a job I love, a schedule that starts at 4 a.m. with a bike ride or a run or a swim or a weight/yoga workout, with a man and a daughter I couldn’t manage life without, and finally at age 62 time for me to sew, garden and paint. I will stay “stuck” right here….until I start planning for our summer trip today and then we will be go, go, going again!

    I decided to get “unstuck” with my body image, my place of residence and chance of a dead-end life in the midwest when I was 16.

  8. So good! The thing that sticks for me is being really honest with yourself. That can be hard and scary. I so relate to knowing exactly what I should/could/can/did to be healthier. But I’m still not doing it. Why is that?! Well, as you say, exploring that piece can be really powerful and I am ready to start on that journey. I expect it to be a bumpy ride, but worth it in the end.

  9. Wow. This makes so much sense. It’s so easy to know why we DO want to change and often isn’t difficult to find out the technical aspects of how to change… but “stuck” helps explain why change is still so hard to realize. Beautiful post!

  10. Such a powerful way to reframe! I think it all comes back to being comfortable enough to just sit with our feelings and not judge them or ourselves. I am feeling a bit stuck myself these days and I know it’s not likely to go away anytime soon.

    Beautifully written. Thanks for sharing! xo

    • love and light. and it’s a journey. there are moments when we have the ‘light go off’…but when we get stuck..if we can bring ourselves back to that place where we examine the core cause we can decide what our course of action is if we want to take it. oftentimes, i’ve found that even when I acknowledge what it really is..THEN I have to choose how to process it.

      You’re such a beautiful soul. I think of you daily. xo

  11. Thank you for posting this! What a fantastic question, “What is the ‘stuck’ giving you?” I have some thinking to do…

  14. Very direct to the point article and I love it! It’s really an eye opener for all of us. We really need to be aware on both sides. There are so many good things that can happen to us while losing weight, but we also need to face our failures in losing weight and learn from it, so that the next time we won’t be committing it!

Trackbacks

Pin It on Pinterest

Share This