There’s beauty in being stuck.
I promise you this.
It’s the season of New Years Resolutions, gym memberships, detoxes and ‘this year I am going to…’
I am ALL for change.
I think we have this new beautiful chance in a year (and really every day) to make a new a part of our lives which can catapult us or bring us down to where we’ve always wanted to be.
But so many of us don’t do it.
I am one of those people.
Having struggled with my weight for 28 years and I have gained back a large portion of the weight I have lost over the past 8 years.
I have battled…a warrior in some ways…against the ingrained view of myself which is negative.
I have wanted to move and I’ve tried everything to do it. I have dieted, eaten 500 calories everyday for month, cut out food, spent thousands on memberships of all kinds.
But I kept gaining and gaining.
I’m not stupid. I’m educated. I know what foods I should be eating and how much exercise I should be doing. In fact, through the past 15 years of dieting I feel like I could/am and expert in this area.
Yet, I kept failing.
I kept gaining.
I kept spinning my wheels and got further and further stuck in the quicksand.
I wasn’t embracing my stuck. Why was I staying this stuck for so long when I KNEW what I needed to be doing?!
What is the ‘stuck’ giving you?
The ‘stuck’ is rich with so many lessons and insight.
I am a firm believer that the reason why you are NOT changing is bigger then your why.
We can all write down WHY we want to change (and there is validity in this and I encourage you to do this) BUT the reasons you are staying stuck is so rich with knowledge which can help you affirm your why really change your life.
I’ve stayed stuck because I’m scared and I’m fearful of my power.
I’m scared of my own success and I’m incredibly fearful of failure.
So instead of doing something amazing for myself and my health, I have stayed stuck and it’s enabled me to hide and to be where I’m comfortable.
It’s enabled me to retreat against the disappointment that was catapulted about me 8 years ago.
It’s been a barrier, a hibernation of sorts.
I share this, because only recently did I explore my STUCK.
We can will ourselves to lose weight, but if we don’t drill down into how the stuck is serving us we won’t have lasting change.
Stop and explore your stuck.
I promise it contains beautiful lessons.
Mish is a blogger who writes about life, change, weight loss and offers daily musings on being a happy, diet-coke drinking hippie.