We’ve previously established that I’m a tenacious one & a firm believer that, if you want something, you must speak up and ask for it.
Start down this path however you choose (pray, visualize, pin a photo-shopped picture of you & Jillian holding hands & filming a workout video on your Vision Board), but in the end it’s you who must step up, step out of your comfort zone & go after what you want.
mind-numbing digression thought I give you Jillian.
She’s amazing, motivating, awe inspiring, kinda terrifying (in that great & I’ll do whatever you say! way), fabulous & strong.
I dont think it’s a stretch to say she’s the woman most of us aspire to be (and yeah, guys, Im dragging you into the mix here as well).
My favorite part of her guest post?
The fact I received it the day this post ran at MizFit.
While I know she’s not a reader (yet)—–I like to think that we’ve some kind of ‘great minds kindasorta think alike‘ happening.
You know, in an entirely not icky, non-stalker’y way…
Jillian’s Tip for MizFit Readers: Don’t Be Afraid to Say No
While I always say weight loss is about eating less and moving more, sometimes there are other factors that keep the pounds dropping off. Are you one of those people who feels as though she does everything for everyone else, and nothing for herself? You have to face that fear of putting yourself first — otherwise you won’t have enough TIME to concentrate on getting healthy.
The overwhelming fear of saying no and letting other people down consumes so many people. Don’t feel like you have to be super-mom, super-dad, super-friend, or super-employee — in other words, stop being a people-pleaser and say no once in a while. Make time for the gym, make time to eat healthfully, and don’t let other people’s demands overwhelm you. You have weight-loss goals to reach. If you’re exhausted, how are you going to kick butt in the gym? If you’re stressed and prone to emotional eating, how is that calorie overload helping you?
You need to get this into your head: You’re not letting anyone down by taking care of yourself, and you’re not doing anyone any favors by wearing yourself out trying to be a superhero. Now’s the time to STOP worrying and start understanding that you’re only human. Here are some things you can do to help yourself get over the fear of letting people down:
- Take a second to think: When someone asks you to do something, stall for some time. Say something like, “Let me check my schedule and get back to you.” Then you have a chance to evaluate whether the task is something you want to take on. If you’re stressed beyond belief, or if it derails your new healthy-living routine, don’t do it!
- Practice saying no: I know it’s easier to think “no” than it is to actually say it. But believe it or not, there are plenty of nice ways to say no – you don’t have to feel like a jerk! If you’ve been busy all week and just want to take Friday night for yourself, then simply explain: “Oh gosh, I’d love to, but I’ve just been going non-stop this week and need some time to breathe.” Practice with a close friend and try out responses to the kinds of requests you think people might make of you. It’s the perfect practice for learning to assert yourself.
- Examine your own motivation: Ask yourself what YOU want. If you have the time and don’t feel burned out, then do what you feel good about doing. However, if people constantly keep asking for this and that, you’re only going to start resenting those relationships. Take a hard look at what you’re doing, communicate your needs, and don’t be afraid of letting anyone down.
Start feeling like the rock star you know you can be, and start saying NO!
There you go,
Bumbling Band Rock Stars, the word has been handed down from the Buff & Mighty J.
It’s TWO LETTERS and we *cant* be afraid to use it.
How YOU applying her insights to your life starting NOW?
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