If she can do it, why can’t I?
I have been thinking about this….. a great deal lately…. the tendency to look around and compare myself to others, making myself small and feeling inadequate, instead of focusing on ME!!!!
And why shouldn’t I focus on me???
After all, it is I with whom I walk around daily on this planet…. it is I who I am left with, when all others depart…… and yet, from time to time… even more than that… moment to moment, I find myself looking at what SHE IS DOING!
She just ran an ultra-marathon and won…. third overall, She just competed in a fitness show and wowowowow! look at her abs, She just bought a BMW, she….. she….. she…..
WHO is SHE? and WHY AM I IN COMPETITION WITH HER?????
Every time I stop focusing on my goal and look at SHE, I am taking away from me….
This is using SHE as a measuring stick for me! She is not my measuring stick!
The reality….. I can do ANYTHING I set my mind too…..
It is my attitude that determines the altitudes of success I will achieve….. and when I spend my time looking at she… I lose perspective of my success.
The reality: NO TWO PEOPLE ARE ALIKE… except maybe twins, and well, there are some differences there too….
The reality: YOU CANNOT COMPARE YOUR JOURNEY AND ACCOMPLISHMENTS TO ANOTHER…. each has a different body, a different journey and a different response.
The reality: YOU ARE UNIQUE! That’s pretty cool!!!! I like that… i really, really like that! (Say it out loud with me…. no shout it out…. I AM UNIQUE!)
What are you doing to develop your uniqueness?
What are you doing to be the best you?
I have been struggling as I am working with some very high-powered athletes, in each of their prospective levels. I am coaching some top high school girls who are in pursuit of college athletics. I look at their achievements and sometimes feel glum… i have to remind myself that I am their coach and an integral part of these accomplishments.
I am training (my running partner) with a top long-distance runner…. and in my frustration and feelings of inadequacies this week… as I was running with Jeannette, she said… ‘you always kill me on the sprints. whenever we are doing intervals or track work, i know i have to step it up a notch.’ ….. those few words and i felt like the queen of the track, because when I run with Jeannette, I have to step it up a notch… no room for slacking, she is that good…. but then I am too!
It is easy for me to look at my peers and get glum…. i am currently carrying more body fat than some….. i am struggling to get my fitness/physique back after a serious cycling accident… and it is easy to look at what isn’t than what is. So, back to the drawing board…… and here is what is…..
I ran 137.55 km this month. This is the furthest I have run since my accident.
I cycled 100 miles, and taught 8 spinning classes and performed 18 strength workouts. I have dropped 2% body fat this month. I gained seven pounds (might be the new scale).
I empowered myself to see a nutritionist to ensure all is right in my eating world. I am going to be 43 in August, and I am excited that I will be as fit or fitter than I was last year this time, and look no older than 29.
I am a work in progress and i don’t need SHE to measure against!
So, why can’t I do it? I can’t do it…. because I am spending soooooo much time looking around me, instead of focusing on where I want to be.
When I change my perspective, I can accomplish anything I set my mind to.
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