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If you ask me what I want for my upcoming 40th birthday, I probably would respond by telling you everything I don’t want:
To be diagnosed with, and eventually die from, ovarian cancer like my mom when she was in her forties
To start feeling, being, thinking, looking like a 40 year old (whatever that means!)
To get a colonoscopy
This started me thinking about what else I could do without in my new decade:
And thus, a birthday dream was born.
I decided that in the 40 days leading up to my 40th birthday, I would chose just one thing per day, and do less of it.
I thought it would be nothing more then a fun experiment, and just coming up with 40 things to do less of, proved a harder task then it seemed.
But slowly, I built a list, and each day I posted a picture to Instagram with my intention of “less” for the day.
Whatever the word, it stayed with me like a bestie or a retriever though out my day.
Day one was less complaining (because let’s just start at the top!) and I managed to hold it together even though it was the 756th snow day for my twin 5 year-olds, I couldn’t get to the gym and my husband was leaving on a four-day business trip.
Each time I wanted to completely freak out and yell expletives (less swearing was day eight), it came back to me and slapped me in the head.
Gently but firmly.
I was giving myself permission not to do something, to change my mindset…and I loved it.
On day six my assignment was to worry less.
You know what? I discovered I worry a lot less then I thought I did. Bonus!
Day 10 was less comparing so I went though the day thinking about only what I would do and no one else. What a concept!
Each day that has gone by has been a gift, one I have given to myself but a gift I could have been using for the past 39 years!
It’s everything Carla was talking about when choosing quality over quantity.
By spending less time judging (day 11), over thinking (day14), fearing (day 17), multi-tasking (day 21) and second guessing (day 22) I’ve spent more time understanding, relaxing, hoping, focusing and enjoying.
So, what do I want for my 40th birthday?
I already gave it to myself.
Allie is happiest when sweating or writing.
She’s a competitive athlete on Oiselle Team Voleé and has represented Team USA in duathlon competition. When she’s not running, swimming or biking she’s writing her health and fitness blog VITA – Train for Life. The blog discusses training and racing with the goal of motivation, inspiration and hilarity. Allie also writes for RunHaven.com and Fitbie.com when she’s not chasing her twin 5 year-old boys around at her home. The two things Allie values more then training and writing are sleep and food. There’s never enough time for all of it!