fearless and 93.
After my post asking why we work to avoid feeling fear I received the email below from my Great Aunt.
I read it so many times, I finally asked her if I could share.
It’s forty words. It’s one of the most powerful and thought provoking guest posts I’ve had.
Aging quiets fears and acceptance enters.
I’ve learned to accept what I cannot change.
My losses are great, but I chose not to focus on them.
Perhaps it is because there are no longer listeners.
93 is a good year.
Allie saysNovember 20, 2015 at 4:39 am
YES! 40 is also a good year.
Rita saysNovember 20, 2015 at 4:57 am
More words were not needed.
Jennifer saysNovember 20, 2015 at 5:11 am
She is one smart and fabulous lady!
Annmarie saysNovember 20, 2015 at 5:26 am
I love the wisdom that those who have lived longer than us bestow. My 98 year old grandfather is full of awesome advice- I never take his little tidbits for granted!
Vonnie saysNovember 20, 2015 at 5:37 am
I hope you also have printed this out and framed it.
Nicole saysNovember 20, 2015 at 5:52 am
I wish I could express how much I love this. These words left me very emotional. My almost 99 year old aunt passed away two weeks ago and would have said the same exact thing. so much love. xo
Wendy@Taking the Long Way Home saysNovember 20, 2015 at 5:55 am
I hate to think that the listeners go away. My parents are going to a lot of funerals, it seems. I can’t imagine.
Susie @ Suzlyfe saysNovember 20, 2015 at 6:02 am
We shouldn’t fear aging. We should fear aging ungracefully. And we get to control the grace that we show the world!
Christy@ My Dirt Road Anthem saysNovember 20, 2015 at 6:12 am
Beautiful post, thanks for sharing. It’s a little sad that we don’t get over so many fears until we are older. the things I would do different if I went back to high school and college now!
cheryl saysNovember 20, 2015 at 7:15 am
It’s never too late to go “back” and do those same things differently…
Jenn - a traveling Wife saysNovember 20, 2015 at 6:14 am
That’s beautiful! I fear fear, but fear will not get me through life. 🙂
cheryl saysNovember 20, 2015 at 7:15 am
That is true wisdom! You get that (sometimes) when you have lived awhile…
Maureen saysNovember 20, 2015 at 7:33 am
I love those words of wisdom!
Jess @hellotofit saysNovember 20, 2015 at 7:35 am
Quite to-the-point! Love it. Aging with confidence is something I aspire to do 🙂
Leanne@crestingthehill saysNovember 20, 2015 at 8:17 am
short and powerful – may we all live to 93 and have enough going for us that we can comment on blogs and love our age!
Shauna saysNovember 20, 2015 at 8:24 am
Oh! I love her! 🙂
Marcie saysNovember 20, 2015 at 8:29 am
A wise, wise women. Hoping that I got her good genes.
Liz @ The Clean Eating Couple saysNovember 20, 2015 at 9:10 am
Oh how I love this. What a wise woman!
Heather Montgomery saysNovember 20, 2015 at 9:13 am
So much packed into so few words!
Susan Bonifant saysNovember 20, 2015 at 10:16 am
What amaaaazing clarity. Just made me sigh. Lovely and memorable. Thank you, Carla.
Jennifer saysNovember 20, 2015 at 10:18 am
Very wise lady!
Farrah saysNovember 20, 2015 at 10:28 am
Powerful words. <3 I hate to think that listeners are going away though–I've been trying to always make it a point to listen to all my patients!
Donna saysNovember 20, 2015 at 11:38 am
I am in the process of realigning my life because aging was something that happened to other people. Now I have to accept that I am aging and that it is ok. I need to read more like this
Felicia @ testozilla.com saysNovember 20, 2015 at 11:47 am
Thanks for sharing, 93 is a great path !
A 7 letter finish line:
Awesome ! )
Kelli @ Hungry Hobby saysNovember 20, 2015 at 12:07 pm
Thank you for sharing this, it’s beautiful. I read it like a thousand times too, acceptance is the word that stands out for me!
Karen McDonough saysNovember 20, 2015 at 12:17 pm
Wow! She’s awesome. I love her words. And is that an updated pic? If so at 93…wow she looks fantastic.
Fancy Nancy saysNovember 20, 2015 at 12:50 pm
“Age quiets fear”…bring it on!!
Yum Yucky saysNovember 20, 2015 at 1:01 pm
Your Aunt is stunning and looks 20 years younger than she is. I love what she’s said.
rebecca saysNovember 20, 2015 at 1:09 pm
Such wise words! ps she DOES NOT look anywhere near 93 yrs!
Jody - Fit at 58 saysNovember 20, 2015 at 1:52 pm
messymimi saysNovember 20, 2015 at 4:01 pm
Exactly. She’s the kind of 93 i want to be someday.
Kelly saysNovember 20, 2015 at 4:21 pm
Amen! What an inspiration! Cheers to you both!
Gingi Freeman saysNovember 20, 2015 at 5:20 pm
The older I get, and the more friends I lose to disease and cancer and accidents.. the more I realize aging and growing old is BLESSING! Great post! <3
Debbie @ Coach Debbie Runs saysNovember 20, 2015 at 7:44 pm
I am so happy that I have the honor of working mostly with older women. I learn so much. Much of our fear of aging is when we’re younger, talking to these women helps me know that, yes, 93 is a good year. Though 58 has been kind of tough 🙂
Laura @ Sprint 2 the Table saysNovember 21, 2015 at 12:09 am
Your great aunt is a wise lady. And she looks like a total bad ass!
Valerie saysNovember 21, 2015 at 6:42 am
Wise, wise words. You know me, every short, simple line is sparking a doctoral thesis worth of thoughts…
But oh, how true it is and right in line with some things I’ve been thinking lately. The older I get the more authentically me I dare to be. I can only imagine what 93 will be like.
Christine @ Love, Life, Surf saysNovember 21, 2015 at 7:36 pm
These words. Thank you (and your Great Aunt!) for sharing this wisdom here.
Coco saysNovember 22, 2015 at 1:15 pm
So inspiring. I would love to be fearless at 93!
Elle saysNovember 23, 2015 at 12:09 am
Your great aunt is amazing. As they say, you get wiser as you age! I really like how she kept it short and simple, yet all her words were so full of impact.
Mark saysNovember 23, 2015 at 6:13 pm
Wise words from an obviously very wise woman.
Ask Helen saysNovember 24, 2015 at 7:04 pm
Awww! This is beautiful and inspirational. And your aunt is lovely 🙂
Lucie saysNovember 24, 2015 at 8:09 pm
Carla, you always have such beautiful, insightful posts. Now I know where you get it! It must run in the family! I always think the age I am is the best age yet!
Greg saysNovember 29, 2015 at 4:59 pm
You never get to kill the grief of loss as you grow older, you just get better at living with it as you experience it more often. With three losses this year on my mind, I’d like to think that I’m learning to cope with it like your aunt certainly has…
Cayanne Marcus saysNovember 30, 2015 at 1:00 pm
Beautiful and inspiring in 40 words 🙂
KCLAnderson (Karen) saysDecember 6, 2015 at 3:18 pm
There is so much peace and freedom in this. I’m not sure when it happened, but somewhere along the way I stopped fearing death. I don’t want it to happen any time soon, but if it does, it’s okay. I think watching my grandmother go through the process of dying helped me.