For years Ive joked about the fact I don’t possess a filter.Â
You know that whole thing they say about more truth being said in jest?
Yep.
That’s it here, too.
While I’m capable of affixing a screen when adulting demands it—100% of the rest of the time I’m blunt, upfront and extraordinarily honest.
I like to think this isn’t a bad thing.
Not only am I never unkind (if my thoughts veer more toward “need than want to hear” I’m careful how I share) the majority of the time my wordhole only spouts niceties.
Brazen, spontaneous compliments which take strangers and new friends aback.
You wont wonder what I’m thinking.
Ever. Â In the best possible way.
Apprehensive about asking me to execute an inconvenient favor?
You know when I respond: Sure, that’s fine. I’m not later lamenting the request behind your back.
I’m never the friend who appears sad or mad or frustrated or distant or (insert emotion here) and sparks you to wonder: Did I do something wrong?!
If you’ve offended rest assured I’d tell you, we’d talk it through like grown ass adults and move beyond.
Oh and also?
An added bonus is you’ll know, with any compliment I bestow, I’m never saying anything “just to be nice.”
Ive got you.
This is an extension of the above.
I won’t hold back from telling you exactly what I’m thinking and if I hear others disparaging you/doing you wrong I’ll be the first to step up and have your back.
Loudly.
I roll filter-free *and* I’m in your corner.
What’s not to love?
I’m low-stress and contagious.
I have no filter because I trust myself.
I may joke it’s about possessing comfort around saying anything to anyone, but for me a blunt/filter-free existence is bigger than that.
Living fully as my authentic self means I’m freed from pretending I’m anything other than precisely who I am.
I don’t feel the need to be a chameleon for different situations. I show up consistently as honest, authentic and flawed and create space for others to do the same.
It’s a bastardization of the Jim Rohn quote around how we’re the average of the 5 people with whom we spend the most time.
The more you hang with my filter-free wordhole the more likely your filter is to free itself in solidarity.
filter-free is a way of life.
Sure, thanks to the fact my mouthhole bears no screen, life with me can appear to be a constant (potentially unrequested) adventure.
I’ll concede uncertainty about what might emerge from my wordhole coupled with excitement around these words facilitating meeting new people/making new friends makes life with me  unpredicta’citing.
And you need me in your world.
The royal Me.
That one unpredictable friend Me.
Or so I’m entirely confident your filter-free friend(s) believe, too.
Now YOU.
• Do you have a friend where you love and loathe she’s got no mouthscreen?
• Are YOU that friend?
Bea says
July 9, 2018 at 5:38 amThis is why I’ve always we needed to hang out together off-line.
I have read you forever!!!
Bea says
July 9, 2018 at 5:38 amAlways THOUGHT lol.
Wendy says
July 9, 2018 at 7:03 amI was just talking to a friend about this yesterday. There’s so much phoniness on social media. People can post the most obnoxious thing and commenters are all complimentary. All that does is feed the monster…I have one person in mind and I need to detach. ASAP. Because my non-filter self is ready to let loose!
Seriously, I can be that non-filter friend, but not always. There’s a fine line between honesty and insulting. It also depends on how the message is received. I’ve been on the receiving end of some non-filter honesty and it stings a bit!
Coco says
July 10, 2018 at 6:38 amNow I’m so curious!
Joan Tamburini says
July 9, 2018 at 12:27 pmThank you for this!
messymimi says
July 9, 2018 at 6:06 pmMy tact meter is too strong for me to be this person, and i’m not sure i have such a friend, i’d have to think about it.
Coco says
July 10, 2018 at 6:41 amI think my default setting is filtered. Maybe from having my words scrutinized so much? Openness is so refreshing though!
Jen says
July 10, 2018 at 8:09 amI love having you as a friend, even if it is not IRL (what does that even mean?). I spend too much time on the FB so I do filter, it’s something I wish were different. You are amazing!
MCM Mama Runs says
July 11, 2018 at 10:03 amI am totally that friend, especially if I’m tired or I’ve had a beer…
Renee says
July 11, 2018 at 11:10 amI knew we were friends for a reason…I have always been this way but even more so since my son passed….I don’t like messing around. I will tell you how it is and if you don’t like it, theres the door…my friends that have stayed beside me have told me they like that I say what I mean and mean what I say…my two daughters…now that’s another story…
Megan @ Skinny Fitalicious says
July 13, 2018 at 2:11 pmMy best friend and I are both no filter, but that’s what I love about our friendship. We can say anything!
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July 18, 2018 at 4:56 amMy tact meter is too strong for me to be this person, and i’m not sure i have such a friend, i’d have to think about it.