What are your problem areas?

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my life. “My existence is a clear reflection of my thoughts.” I'm not bragging as in this current season this 'reflection' may not be a good thing. But I'm aware and for me that's always the first step toward change (second step? fighting paralysis by analysis). "I create my reality and am in control of what my life-situation looks like.” Again this isn't yet something at which I ... Continue Reading

Im in the middle of being old.

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perfection is serendipitous desk discovery. Recently I had a day which was pretty freaking close to perfect. It wasn’t any specific moment, but a coming together of experiences which consistently sparked me to think: I’m lucky. Laughter. Creativity sessions. Coffees. New friends. Sunshine. Crappy dinner. It was as close to a perfect day as I’d had in what felt like a lifetime. I was ... Continue Reading

Creating an anchor.

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Once  upon a time we had a bullmastiff named Hercules (pour some kibble out for our fallen homie). He possessed many interesting quirks one of which fascinated me more than the others. Before he'd sit on the couch (I'm those people. Not only do I allow dogs on furniture--I encourage it.) Hercules would gather the fleece blankets with his paws and “plump” them. He’d scrape and he’d collect ... Continue Reading

I cannot stop MUSTurbating.

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I MUST travel more with this one. I have (to give a loving shout out to Albert Ellis) slipped back into the habit of rubbing myself the wrong way. A woman renown for never MUST'ing herself I've slowly returned to a habit I kicked decades ago. I'm wrapping myself in shoulds whereas, for so long, I'd existed wholly unwrapped. I lived my life. I did the best I could. I had zero ... Continue Reading

We teach people how to treat us.

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I have a friend about whom I care a great deal. We share the same snickering sensibilities. We have similar approaches to how we live our best lives. We are different enough we rarely disagree, yet so shockingly alike we often, separately, arrive at identical life-choices. Recently, however, I noticed my friend wasn't treating me well. (As I type that sentence I'm aware it reads more ... Continue Reading

My search for a shared sense of humor.

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For me having a sense of humor in life is pivotal. When all else fails, when you've accidentally given yourself a new haircut, when you fear your child is going off the rails, when you cannot see a way out of every single shitty situation you've gotten yourself into, the ability to find levity is lifesaving. For me having a shared sense of humor in relationships is pivotal. All ... Continue Reading

Surrendering vs Giving Up.

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In previous episodes we've addressed my belief in the importance of quitting. The Child has been on the receiving end of loving-lectures about the benefits of ending shit which no longer serves us. Friends, avocations, books I've started yet feel meh about-- I'm W.C. Fields with regards to all of it. Now, if I'm completely honest, some of this life-approach was born from being contrarian. In ... Continue Reading

Ive oversold resilience.

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We've hit a bumpy patch around here. It's not so much life isn't going well, I just see pitfalls on the path ahead and hold my breath (literally & metaphorically) as the Child hesitates and attempts to navigate around them. My role used to be the bumpers along the sides of the bowling alley--easily able to keep her safe and 'in play'-- and I've now become relegated to spectator (or told ... Continue Reading

It is impossible to offend me.

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There’s been lots of living happening offline these days. Some bad. Most good. Much unexpected. I’ve had an abundance of opportunity for my beliefs/10 commandments to be challenged and none more than the post linked below. I still believe much of life has nothing to do with us. I still believe how we choose to view a situation impacts whether we decide to tolerate it or not. I still ... Continue Reading

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