The other morning, as I had coffee and skimmed the Child's Snapchat (our philosophy is the phone is mine and she's borrowing it. I check sporadically in the name of keeping her safe.), I stumbled upon a snap which surprised me. Stuck in between shout-outs to friends and messages of love to her Doodle was an image which made my eyes widen. Let me back up for a moment. Things around here have ... Continue Reading
I dont want to hustle.
Once upon a different Carla-life, I was all about the side projects. These ventures were where I gleaned energy & fulfillment I wasn't currently receiving from my day job. I hustled on the side as a way to increase my joy. Decades later I joke about side hustle all the damn time. In addition, if you hang with me offline, you're aware I long to rescue a sidekick for The Doodle and ... Continue Reading
The way you do one thing is the way you do EVERYthing.
do you give yourself what you offer others? I like to be on the cutting edge of everything. An "early adopter." Always the first on trend and, if I'm not that, I'm the very, very last. I'm rarely in the middle with anything life. First to know or *last* to find out. And, for now, I'm OK with this fact as it keeps my life interesting. Which brings me to a conversation I had over ... Continue Reading
I have HOMO.
The other night as I snacked and skimmed through the Book of the Face I stumbled upon photos of friends out for a night on the town. Instead of feeling a pang of Why wasn't I invited? I found myself scrutinizing the images, registering fun being had and noting how amazingly comfy I felt in my PJs/happily ensconced on the couch. Jealousy? FOMO? Nope. Never. Not here. In that moment ... Continue Reading
February 7th is the day we give up.
According to experts February 7th is the dreaded day. It's the day we abandon our resolutions because, as research indicates, 38 days after we greet the New Year filled with hope-- we quit. On this date all the things we felt unflaggingly optimistic about and all the stuffs we thought we could accomplish this year fall by the wayside. Why 38 days? The answer is as complicated and as simple ... Continue Reading
Speak over yourself.
I'm a big fan of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Albert Ellis is my homeboy. For me the notion of life’s problems stemming from faulty thoughts (cognition)/behaviors not only makes sense--it's comforting. CBT teaches if we shift beliefs/actions toward healthy and productive goals, our lives become easy peasy (Carla-term not CBT-term). In addition, CBT stresses the importance of feeling ... Continue Reading
My thank you note commitment.
we give what we want to receive (7.18.12) My child has everything. She has necessities covered with enough leftover to pay "rent" and help others. In addition, she's not a child who possesses a running mental (or Amazon Wish) list of what she longs to own. Sure, she likes her some Press-Ons. *Yes* she'll happily accept gifts of anything gymnastics-related. For the most part, ... Continue Reading
The Child and I have shared a gratitude practice since she was tiny. It began simply (prayers before bed) and, over time, has grown more complex. It wouldn't be overstating to say I'm proud of how grateful she is. Sure she's 12 and possesses all the snark & entitled moments of any tween, yet at the end of the day she's appreciative for all she has. (Even when, at times, the 'all ... Continue Reading
5 ways to be a Shamash in 2018
We've been back in Austin for 3 years. It's been 3 years (!) since the Child & I chatted about making new friends and what do to when you can't find a nice person. It's flown. It's been a roller coaster. It reminds me of what I've written before with regards to fully living in our bodies versus going through the motions of life encased in a skin-sack. (bear with me. this will ... Continue Reading
Mother/Daughter Journals: how shared writing connects us.
Mother/daughter journaling is something we've done for a while. On the surface it's as simple as a shared notebook where we both write. Sometimes serious and frequently silly our joint-journaling offers easy, silent connection. Right now uncomfortable face-to-face talks are not something which challenge the Child and me. At almost-12 she's still in the ask anything/tell anything phase. ... Continue Reading
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