I rock the boundaries like a motherfucker. I draw them in Sharpie leaving myself ample space to ooze off the paper and not spark stress. Still, even though parameter-setting verges on reflexive for me, it's hard. It takes courage, feels vulnerable and, at times, sparks a sense of fear like no other. Recently I drew boundaries with a loved one which felt excruciatingly challenging. I ... Continue Reading
The importance of living with margins.
Teaching the child about margins. circa 2013. Once upon a time, I was offered an amazing opportunity. I couldn't believe it. I was excited. I looked at my stacks of notes scrawled on scraps of paper hi-level, organized schedule and concluded I couldn't say yes. I was committed (child stuff). I was busy (work stuff). I simply could not fit in another thing. I clearly recall ... Continue Reading
Viewer mail: learning to say no (Kuru giveaway post).
I saw your tweet about drawing boundaries and saying no. I'm terrible at this and end up angry and resentful about all my commitments. I know this isn't a workout question but wondered if you could email me back? My entire reason for starting this blog was the hope that, through sharing my experiences, I could save you (the royal) from making the mistakes Id made along my healthy-living ... Continue Reading