ahh the olden days.
I grew up during the heyday of note passing.
I passed notes to friends when bored in class (what should we wear tomorrow? wanna match??).
I passed notes to boys I liked (this was how I learned the timeless lesson:*all* things are permanent and can be shared. behave and write accordingly.)
I wrote long & verbose missives to best, best friends sharing my innermost thoughts on life, school dances and the pros & cons of Jordache jeans.
back in the note-passing days.
Since my girl is not yet old enough to own a smart phone I tuck notes into her lunch or backpack.
Notes I invariably discover later saved in notebooks or pockets.
Ive learned not only do my messages let her know I’m thinking about her—they’ve become a way she frames her world.
If I remind her in a note (brief, block letters, easily read without teacher’s help) she’s unstoppable she continues to view herself in that way.
I still “pass” notes.
I’ve shared about all of the different friendships social media has gifted me.
And, while I don’t know texting is technically social media (waves cane), for me it IS the most social of sorts.
For me texting is the note passing of the 2015’s.
I harness its power as a way to remain connected and let others know (just checking on you!! no need to respond!) in a non-intrusive way they are on my mind.
(Finger quote) Experts (unF.Q.) disagree with me.
Experts assert texting causes us to become less social.
Experts believe we’re raising a generation of children who lack face-to-face friendship developing skills.
I believe we create social skills in our children when they are young. Mine, at 2 months from 10, doesn’t own a smart phone.
When she asks: Will you text XXX for me? it’s always to make specific in-person plans or remind a friend of plans set for the future.
I disagree texting will result in generations of children unable to read social cues.
I believe in the constant connection texting brings to my friendships.
4 ways texting enhances my relationships.
Texting (and relationships) is built on the small stuff.
I’m a woman who loves the details of peoples lives. The sorts of things we shared decades ago when life was slower and we had leisurely conversations on the (princess rotary-dial) phone. Those days are over. Phone calls in my world tend to be brief. Skypes happen less often than Id like. Texting encourages us to detail-dump in a way email does not.
Texting connects us immediately.
My texted-thoughts are *rarely* time sensitive. I don’t care if friends respond right away. I feel as though I’ve been “heard” the moment I hit send! Sure I await a response, yet by sharing I already feel as though I can move forward. I know someone is carrying my thoughts, burdens or load alongside me.
Texting allows me to let others to know they’re on my mind.
Remember the days before caller id? We’d always answer the phone as we’d no idea who was calling! Even with the addition of caller id I still question if it’s a good time to call. Am I interrupting? Is there time enough let them know they’re in my thoughts before my *own* conference call? Texting is a non-intrusive way to say: I’m thinking of you, Friend. and it’s far more real-time than email.
It’s not the phone.
We are all busy. And while I believe in making relationships a priority I often spontaneously have the gift of time without the ability to conduct a relaxed phone call. The child might be doing homework & occupied only until the next word-problem. I might have finished an article and have 5 minutes before edits. Texting can be done in a public place while maintaining private thoughts, too. Win, win, win.
For me texting is the opposite of isolating.
With each buzz of my phone I wonder:
Who is it? What are you sharing?
And, even more than that, I’m appreciative others are thinking of me and grateful they’re inviting me in.
- Do you feel as I do about texting? Does it enhance your friend-relationships?
- Or do you find it empty/disconnecting and leaves you only with great TEXT’pecations?