As we’ve previously established, we’re not gonna be all Oprah all the time up in herre.
I do, however, wanna highlight shows whose themes have touched me.
Less out of wanting to rehash the show and more out of a desire to know if you were affected as I was & what youre thinking now.
Anyone see Wednesday’s show (or, if youre me, you tivo’d & watched friday at the crack of dawn)?
The show focused (somewhat on Jenny McCarthy/autism but more) on the concept of Mother Warriors & left me speechless.
For Jenny the term Mother Warrior seemed to be defined as moms who work tirelessly as advocates for their special needs kids.
After watching the show I believed more than ever that all
mothers WOMEN are, in their own fashion, warriors.
Battling tirelessly for our children, partners/spouses, and communities.
The show’s main guest was a woman named Monica.
Monica was diagnosed with flesh-eating bacteria immediately after giving birth.
She fought for her life and won—-but emerged from the hospital only after having her arms and legs amputated.
What struck me, apropos of this, was that Monica wasnt bitter. She didnt wallow in WHY ME but asserted to the medical staff, essentially, do what you have to do cuz I need to go home and love my daughters.
This mother would like to think she’d be a WARRIOR if faced with that scenario, but I cant say for certain.
I can say that I paused the show and sat with the entire story for a moment and attempted to figure out how Monica was able to react as she did.
I tried to discern why many of us (perhaps the ‘of us’ typing this post) would have held the world’s longest pity party (catered by Little Debbie) as a best case scenario and, as worst case, perhaps entirely given up.
When I hit play the next words out of Jenny McCarthy’s mouth were, as Monica walked on stage with her prosthetics, SHE’S GOING TO BRING THE LIGHT.
And there was my answer.
I dont know if the
Mother Woman Warrior is born with the light or if it’s the fight that ignites the spark —– but Jenny nailed it with what she said.
Monica Mother Warrior didnt loll about and wail why me because she accepted what was and, once she surrendered to her situation, she was able to move forward in peace.
I adored duality of her being simultaneously the powerful warrior *and* surrendering.
That Monica fought like hell to get out of the rehabilitation hospital/home to be a mother and that in order to commence that fight she had to almost embrace her situation.
The longer I sat with her story the more I wondered if Monica didnt need to locate the tiniest of silver linings (Im still alive!) in the black cloud which had *suddenly* become her life in order to find her place of gratitude and be able to rise again as a Mother Warrior.
The whole story (her husband? un-frickin-believable. strong loving supportive amazing) was unlike anything Id ever heard and yet wholly applicable to all of our lives.
We’re all battling something. Warriors in some fashion.
Our warrior paths may not be as readily apparent to the outside world as Monica’s—-but that doesnt make them any less of a battle or less important.
I lean toward a Woman Warrior definition of one who is engaged energetically and *tirelessly* in an activity, cause or conflict.
Lay it on me, People.
Did you see the show? What did *you* think? Was it as powerful to you as it was to me?
Or is there a reason why we werent inundated with blog posts about it on thursday?
I know it’s the weekend. If you have a spare moment please to hit us up in the comments.