Subtitle: An amazingly powerful needs no introduction guest post from Jamie.
“No one has ever come along and given you sufficient intelligent knowledge about your beautiful self, how you work from the inside out. Why do you have addictions? Because you have nothing better. You have dreamt of nothing better because no one has ever taught you how to dream better.”
What the (Bleep) do we Know is an illuminating documentary about quantum physics, the essential paradigm shift that it presents, and how that might come to affect us–or rather, how we might use it to change ourselves and our world. It delves into issues of philosophy, choice, gods, fates, self-determination, and so much more. It confuses, probes, and enlightens (but mostly, at least for me, confuses).
There are so many wonderful points made in this movie, but I’ve chosen one that I think is particularly relevant to us, and that’s what I’d like to focus on today. One of the main talking points of this film is the notion of emotions–in the form of short-chain amino acids called peptides–as addictive chemical substances. These peptides, the film asserts, attach to individual cells in the body, changing the basic chemistry of the cell in unique ways, depending on the coding of the peptide (i.e. the type of emotion). These cellular changes are similar to the way the opiates like heroin affect the body, and so can become addictive in their own right.
Like with heroin, the body needs more and more peptides to get the same emotional rush as the cells adapt to their input. And the flooding of the body with these peptides can eventually cause cells to reproduce with more locations at which the peptides can attach, which leaves that much less space for the cells to perform their main jobs: nutrient and oxygen absorption and removal of toxins. What happens when the cells can no longer do these jobs? Their ability to produce proteins is inhibited. A great example of this given in the movie is of the protein elasticin, which keeps the skin tight and firm. So can emotional addiction lead to wrinkly skin? Apparently so.
The talking heads also take us a step back from this notion of emotions, connecting emotional addiction to the neural nets that make up our brains. The brain is wired and re-wired according to patterns of action and reaction. So, for example, if you’re a pretty angry person and you react in an angry manner with some regularity, it’ll become easier and easier to draw on anger as the neural pathways which allow (or perhaps elicit) that response become cemented in place. And then you consistently have angry emotion peptides going down to your cells, right? But if you can stop yourself in mid-anger time and time again, you’ll eventually be able to re-wire that neural net, and it will become easier to avoid that knee-jerk, angry response.
The final connection I’d like to draw within the scope of this movie is to the experiments performed by Dr. Masaru Emoto, which the film briefly references. In the experiments, Emoto printed words on paper and taped them (words facing in) on bottles of water. He then froze the water from each bottle and photographed the water crystals that formed. The differences between the crystals of water exposed to, for example, the words “Thank you” (in English and Japanese) and “You fool” indicate the effect that thought can have on something as fundamental as water on a microscopic level. And if we take into account that our bodies–and, in fact, much of organic life–is made up of water, how might words, thoughts, and intentions affect us?
These three concepts–the emotional addictions, the neural pathways, and the effects of thought on water–seem to me to be profoundly connected. And, to be perfectly honest, it provides a basis of understanding in a set of ideas that is to me profoundly confusing (I don’t do science very well; I’m a liberal arts kind of gal). Each of these concepts indicate to me the importance of living deliberately, of thinking things through, of feeling things fully instead of automatically. Does that mean that we should never react in anger, or spontaneous love? Must we always be emotionally detached, holding life at arms’ length so that we can think each action through? Most assuredly not! But we should not get into a rut, always reacting the same way thoughtlessly. And surely life is more interesting when we choose to experience, rather than allowing the experiences to carry us along like twigs going over a waterfall.
But to bring it home, Bumbling Band, what does this have to do with us? Simply this: Attraction. You know, that crazy notion the Miz has that what we think truly impacts what flows back toward us. Think happy thoughts, have a (more or less) happy life. Think angry thoughts, have a (more or less) angry life. What is already inside of you affects what happens to you.
But let’s take it a step further. I would say that we all, in large or in small part, want to change. We want to be stronger, thinner, smarter, better. We want to be more. So what is stopping you from changing, from becoming that stronger thinner smarter better more?
By the reasoning of this movie, you need to ask yourself: What is my addiction? What person, place, time, or event is a big center of my emotional and psychological life? What ingrained reactions am I allowing to go off without thinking them through? What ugly thoughts and intentions am I directing in towards my own beautifully, fearfully complex self? Make no mistake–if you change in the ways that you want to change, you might have to let go of those things. Your body and mind know this, and they don’t want to let go of what they already have.
Want an example? Here’s mine: I’m addicted to unrequited love. I don’t know why it always seems to happen, but I am chronically drawn romantically to people who are not and will (probably) never be interested in me. I rarely take action to engage in a relationship with said people. I prefer to stew in my own angst. I am addicted to unrequited love.
How does that affect me? Well, I think that I tend to sabotage myself, because I prefer the unrequited version to the real (whatever that means) thing. I’m so involved in writing poetry and songs related to how this other person will never love me that I never allow myself to move beyond that to a situation in which I will find myself in a healthy romantic relationship.
And that’s me. So how ’bout it, Band? What are you addicted to? What is holding you back from change, from changing, from continuing to grow and develop? And what can you do to change it?
Here’s the application: Tomorrow, when you wake up, deliberately create your day. Think about what you want your day to be like. How you want to act and react. How you want to take control. How you want to change. Take it a step farther. What things do you want to happen? What good things do you want to come your way?
Will this early-morning reflection enable you to change the cosmic fabrics of the universe? Will you be flying by the end of the day? Um, no. Probably not (although if that happens, please let me know right away!). But if you consciously change your desires and consciously change your intentions, you will eventually come to the point where you consciously change yourself.
And you may (as MizFit likes to say) begin to draw unto yourself things that match your attitude. Good things. Wholesome things. Things that enable you to change.
Or you can remain chained to your addictions, and continue to draw those things to yourself. Things that may not be bad, but that may dim in comparison to what you could have.
The choice may not be that simple, or that immediate, but make no mistake that this is a choice that you can (and do) make every day.
And, oh Bumbling Band, if that werent enough Katy has offered up a freebie for todays post. A vision board.
This busy wife, mother, friend, sister, runner, reader, newbie knitter is a consultant with Creative Memories.
In an effort to keep herself focused & keep her goals in front of her (literally!) she uses the Creative Memories Mini Everyday Display Board for her vision board.
Since it works so well for her she wants to give one away. A mini display in black, with an extra set of heart-shaped magnets.
You can be entered to win for the lowlow price of a comment below. USA only (I know…but it’s the shipping, People) & winner will be announced monday.
Natalia Burleson saysNovember 22, 2008 at 2:53 am
Conscious change same thing as conscious choices? Again with the mind and how and what we think is sooo important! Thanks Jamie very thought provoking post!
Moran saysNovember 22, 2008 at 3:29 am
|Just wanted to say that this is a very good post, MizFit! Every once in a while after I haven’t been meeting my goals or having been doing things like I should I ask myself what is stopping me from making things right and often I just well, I don’t have a clear cut answer
TokaiAngel saysNovember 22, 2008 at 3:46 am
Mind bender!!! So a dude taped words to a bottle of water and the ice crystals were different? Aren’t all ice crystals fundamentally different anyway?
I buy the rest of it though, completely. Brains are not mystical things, they’re made up of chemicals, so our feelings are basically chemical reactions.
Especially interested in the neural pathways in terms of emotional eating/eating disorders and other learned behaviours in terms of foods. In THEORY we should be able to relearn to respond to food intuitively. But I’ve never found ANYONE who has managed to do it. Maybe it’s because so much of our lives are based around eating, so our bad habits are constantly reinforced, so in theory it would take a lifetime to undo them.
Hey, my brain is SMART at 9:45am on a Saturday!
Andrew(AJH) saysNovember 22, 2008 at 5:57 am
Wow – WOW – WOW (that one would have been bigger if I knew how)
Where do I get to see this documentary?
MizFit saysNovember 22, 2008 at 6:00 am
it is an AMAZING MOVIE! you can rent it absolutely anywhere, Andrew (internationally) or if you as like I am you will wanna own it 🙂
CLICK HERE for the website.
bea saysNovember 22, 2008 at 6:24 am
it is all a choice. and I love your vision board video and am making mine today.
I will back back!!
anyone else joining me in making the board today?
I have been putting mine off.
Linda/Hughsmom saysNovember 22, 2008 at 6:50 am
Definitely food for thought. Hmmm…
A little too early for me w/out coffee. I, too, am artsy and now have brain fry. Back to bed? Naaah.
And I’m still not so sure about vision board. Maybe because I tend to live in the right now, putting out “fires” as they arise and I don’t have a “vision”. IDK Or since my neurotransmitters are not programmed to envision, I need some training to the vision>>>>I still DK.
Going for a walk with the K-9s after coffee. Then to the gym which I’ve skipped all week and it feels good to have done so.
Leah J. Utas saysNovember 22, 2008 at 7:03 am
“You must be the change you want to see in the world” -Ghandi.
The hardest part of changing is choosing to do so.
After that, it just happens. I’ve been consciously deciding my days for a few years now and it works beautifully. I don’t do it every day. I like to see how things settle out when I don’t. It’s been interesting.
ChocolateCoveredVegan saysNovember 22, 2008 at 7:35 am
I love Creative Memories! That’s what introduced me to the wonderful world of scrapbooking.
Annette saysNovember 22, 2008 at 7:37 am
I really needed this one this week. I feel my focus is getting a bit foggy and I’m not sure why.
MizFit saysNovember 22, 2008 at 7:40 am
peeking in (HAPPPY BIRTHDAY LEAH. Please to clickclick to her blog and wish her a fab 50th!).
Annette? You are a role model for soso many.
How may WE encourage you this weekend?
It would be an honor to pay you back….
Jewel/Pink Ink saysNovember 22, 2008 at 7:42 am
Sometimes it is scary to own up to addictions. Such a life change, but so necessary.
I would LOVE a vision board!! Heard about it from Evelyn Lim.
PS You are not the only one who hasn’t read Twilight :-). I am amazed how much people have gotten into it.
Leah J. Utas saysNovember 22, 2008 at 7:43 am
Mara saysNovember 22, 2008 at 7:53 am
Wow, what a thought provoking and interesting post. I’ll be thinking on this one for a while.
dragonmamma/naomi w. saysNovember 22, 2008 at 7:58 am
I’m already a pretty darn happy, addiction-free person. About the only thing I’d like to change is to have more money. Or should I say SOME money? I keep wishing and wishing, but I still haven’t gotten a letter from an attorney’s office that some anonymous rich dude left me his estate.
Then again, I AM addicted to bargain hunting. Would I get all happy and excited to find chicken breasts on sale if I were rich? Probably not.
shannon saysNovember 22, 2008 at 8:03 am
dragonmamma? you need to slap a photo of chicken on your vision board then you will get some for free! LOL.
I am off to check netflix for this movie.
thanks mizfit for not just telling us to exercise but nurture our spirits too.
Tracy saysNovember 22, 2008 at 8:09 am
I second Andrew’s post. Wow. Strangely enough, I was thinking about this topic this morning because of a dream I had last night where I was finally healthy and talking to a friend about being big and unhealthy and afraid to change…addicted to how she was living her life..(I like to think it was my subconscious healthy me talking to my current unhealthy me). I have recently lost some weight, but the last couple of days I have been wanting to go back to old eating habits…this came at just the right time to rearrange my thinking back into healthy mode and continue to change those neural pathways. Thanks so much for posting this!
MizFit saysNovember 22, 2008 at 8:24 am
Tracy? this is such powerful stuff:
and so true.
thanks for sharing it and keep us posted. on if you create a vision board (the link is in the post above for those of you who have emailed me for it already. Id say youre up EARLY but I forget people are in different timezones) and what you think of the movie.
Tami saysNovember 22, 2008 at 9:03 am
Awesome post, and a HUGE thank you for the nod to the documentary, which I just looked up and am absolutely getting for my husband for Christmas. Thank you!!
Also, I am making a board. I already have a box – but out of sight is DEFINITELY out of mind. I have an “idea” board – a scribbling of random things to remember, notes for possible stories that I want to write, my favorite yoga poses, lyrics to songs, etc, but the thought of an entire board dedicated to inspiring me and motivating me in a positive way is something I can get behind.
Miz, I had a question for you. Normally, I read your posts while…not at home. *cough* Which means I don’t get to enjoy your facetime videos, not because I don’t want to, but because of certain…ah…limitations.
Do you have transcripts of your vidblog posts anywhere? I think the board on in particular, I would love to see in text (some people resonate with face and gesture, I resonate with words. Also, holy cow you have FABULOUS arms. I’m getting there!). Today was the first day I watched the video, and I regret not watching it earlier!
Back on track with the actual post – the power of positive thought is something I’ve always advocated, but in a general, nonspecific way. I’ve never had any scientific proof of anything, but it always seemed to me that my negative friends were always negative and having negative experiences, and my positive friends would turn negative experiences into positive ones. I know which philosophy I would personally like my life to follow!
Great post. Oh, and no need to enter me in the contest. Let someone else get the goodies. <3
Sagan saysNovember 22, 2008 at 9:10 am
Holiday season: I will see if I can’t make my own vision board. (Along with everything else that I’m looking forward to doing when classes are done and I’m “less busy”… funny how all the sudden I have about a million things that I’m hoping to accomplish…).
This is such an excellent concept. Like Dragonmamma I’m generally pretty happy and addiction-free. (Except to exercise. And peanut butter. And apples. And)
I think what I need to change the most right now is how unproductive I can be when I DON’T have a ton of things to do. I’m kind of addicted to being busy, I guess. I work better that way. But then I’ll get overwhelmed at some point, so it can be a little counter-productive!
Emily saysNovember 22, 2008 at 9:28 am
I like it. What the mind dwells on, the body enacts. My trouble is that I’m either balls out, full-on, into something (running, clean eating, whatever), or I’m not into it AT ALL. What I’m addicted to? Extremes. I really really need to work on doing things in moderation.
tisha saysNovember 22, 2008 at 9:49 am
I love this post. I love the concept of a vision board. I’m trying to implement the ‘laws of attraction’ way of thinking. It’s an adjustment for me. For so long I’ve expected the worse so that when/if it happened I would be prepared and not feel as rejected. Well, THAT’s not working either. I’d rather try to learn how to “change the cosmic fabric of the universe”. 🙂
Thanks Jaime for a wonderful post!
mamarunswithscissors saysNovember 22, 2008 at 9:53 am
heavy post for my lazy saturday morning…but i love it!
been needing to make some changes around here and this has given me lots to consider.
food is my addiction……..both in comfort and in celebration.
twilight-mania!!!…..even my mil is caught up in it!
Merry Mary saysNovember 22, 2008 at 9:58 am
Vision board. Sounds like a greaaaaat idea. I like. I want. 🙂 Hehe.
Brooke saysNovember 22, 2008 at 10:13 am
That was an intense post! Chocolate is my addiction. I sabotage myself with it A LOT. Its a never ending cycle and I always need just a little more. Better than crack I guess.
auntie saysNovember 22, 2008 at 10:19 am
seems like the blog world is reading my mind these days…everywhere i look there are posts that i truly NEED to read. amazing.
i have the Bleep movie, and have to admit that i’ve only attempted to watch it once…it was a lot to absorb in one sitting, and i’ve never gone back to finish it. so now that’s on my list of things to do (as if that list wasn’t already overflowing).
this whole post was really powerful, but the part that hit me the most was this: “…you can remain chained to your addictions, and continue to draw those things to yourself. Things that may not be bad, but that may dim in comparison to what you could have.” uh…LIGHTBULB!!
i just watched the MizFit video about the vision boards (as i also do most of my blog reading…not at home *ahem* and don’t always remember to watch the videos when i get home). what really stood out to me was when you made the statement about having visions that are too vague. that’s something i REALLY have trouble with…nailing down exactly what i want and how i want to get there. all the more reason to get off my butt and make my own vision board!!
Liz Turtle saysNovember 22, 2008 at 10:27 am
The first time I heard about neural pathways and the possibility of overriding them (so to speak) by forming other, stronger associations, was regrettably at a church presentation on How to Stop Being Gay (I went under the impression that the workshop was about handling your sexuality or somesuch). I would just like to say that the miraculously-no-longer-homosexual speaker was the flamingest queen that ever flamed. And I never went back to that church again after having to sit through that tripe.
HOWEVER: the semi-useful takeaway I got from that mildly traumatizing experience was that although you can’t actually totally destroy that old neural pattern/pathway, you CAN create and constantly reinforce a preferred new pathway to the point where it is the “go-to” reaction when you experience a certain thought. It’s like paving a new road while the other negative pathway becomes little more than a dirt trail.
As for myself and addictive thought and emotion patterns? Yes. Many times over. This has caused me incalculable suffering. A few of my addictions: Feeling that you have to be the best at something to make it worthwhile, to be a valuable contributor; feeling that I am an innately unworthy person; being secretly convinced that being an “emotional” type of person is more authentic than being logical/rational.
sharon saysNovember 22, 2008 at 10:28 am
thank you to jamie katy and miz for getting this post together!
I so so needed these words today.
I’m going to watch your vision board video Miz and then rent the movie.
HangryPants saysNovember 22, 2008 at 10:40 am
Wow, what an amazing post. I think I might be addicted to wondering what is right around the corner. This is preventing me from appreciating where I am now. I wonder why?
s saysNovember 22, 2008 at 10:48 am
i liked this post. i think i’m addicted to wearing warm clothes in the winter (i get cold SO easily!), and perhaps as a hold-over of my not-so-fit days i’m still prone to eating lots of cheese …
s saysNovember 22, 2008 at 11:02 am
oh and i think in a way a lot of our food habits have been trained by reinforcement. e.g., when x happens, i eat y. but as difficult as it is to overcome it is possible by changing how you feel about x, switching from eating y to eating z which is slightly healthier and possibly decreasing the strength of the cue, or if you have an awesome sense of self, realize that x is happening and do something else to reverse/ameliorate the effects of x.
i liked the whole physiological aspect of this, which i think is really important because obviously we’re not independent of our bodies but operate within the context of their “needs” as a biological/chemical system.
Diana the Scale Junkie saysNovember 22, 2008 at 11:05 am
I needed this today! Thanks.
MizFit saysNovember 22, 2008 at 11:24 am
many many MANY thoughts (as evidenced by the fact I cant help but ramble about this in so many of my posts as well. thanks AGAIN katy and jamie).
Pubsgal saysNovember 22, 2008 at 11:31 am
Thanks, Miz and Jamie–this was a thought-provoking post. If I had a vision board, I’d put watching this movie on there. (Oh, heck, I’d put watching ANY movie on there…it’s been awhile since I’ve watched a movie, even at home. Kids….) Guess those go on my “mental” vision board…
I’d say that until about 6 months ago, my addictions were food and sleep. And because I tended to be busy and get sleep-deprived, food was the more easily satisfied. But about 6 months ago, I needed to shift my food focus to healthier eating and add a focus on exercise. So I guess I’m in that “retraining” mode, but I still tend to think about food more than I need to. (I’m just a bit better at acting on those thoughts properly…the thoughts are still there.)
Hoolie saysNovember 22, 2008 at 12:09 pm
What a great post! I saw that movie a couple years ago, but it was really nice to revisit the ideas in this blog. It is a lot to take in at once.
Lately, I’ve been realizing that I might be addicted to sadness. I know that sounds like a weird thing to be addicted to, but I find myself wallowing in it when something bad happens. I’ve suffered from depressive episodes since I was 9 years old and it is definitely a familiar, “go-to” emotion for me. Sometimes it stops me from doing what I need to do for days at a time.
In the past few years, I’ve got the chemical part of the equation more leveled out than it has been before, but the emotions still hit me over the head from time to time. And if I take a moment to step outside of myself and observe, I can see myself more objectively and the sadness often seems like an over-reaction.
I’m working on living my life and focusing on the good things I have when bad things happen. I’m also working on feeling my sadness and then letting it pass. I’ve noticed that my depressive episodes are much shorter than they used to be and are nearing what would probably be considered a more “normal” reaction to an upsetting event.
It is my hope that someday soon, pragmatic happiness will replace sadness as my “go-to” emotion. That way, my skin might wrinkle less! 🙂
Hoolie saysNovember 22, 2008 at 12:14 pm
Actually, I want to rephrase that. I think gratitude would be a better “go-to” emotion than pragmatic happiness. Because in all honesty, when something bad happens it is unrealistic for me to think that I would be happy. But I think I could definitely be grateful for the good things I do have.
Elaine Biss saysNovember 22, 2008 at 12:45 pm
The vision board is a Fantastic idea!! Regardless of whatever the addiction may be being grateful and happy as well as focusing on our goals can help us heal that which started the addiction anyway. Great post!!!
MizFit saysNovember 22, 2008 at 12:50 pm
so many thoughts (and Im gonna be terse as I have a date soon. Me. Ren Man. A sitter. Some grownuptime.).
Hoolie? what you said articulates what I believe in such a better fashion.
about feeling the sadness so that it can pass.
it all ties back in what why I said above to Hangry.
that in my younger days, when I distracteddistracted (going out, tv, reading) from feeling my sadnessess I simply carried them with me for a long while.
now that I STOP and SIT WITH THE EMOTION (no matter how nonpleasurable it may be) I find I can move past the sadness more swiftly.
and, to my amazement, learn and grow from it.
and elaine? I also adore my gratitude board. keeps me, well, GRATEFUL.
Liz Turtle saysNovember 22, 2008 at 12:54 pm
Hoolie, I just wanted to say that I can relate to everything you are saying and you’re not alone in working to make these changes. Here’s to a non-wrinkly future!
Amanda saysNovember 22, 2008 at 1:23 pm
Law of Attraction…big fan.I only started to learn about it in the last year and I swear if all it brings me is a sense of peace in life then it’s worth it. Loving her vision board!
josha saysNovember 22, 2008 at 1:50 pm
I know I always mention my experiences with my son with autism, so if you’re tired of hearing about that/us, then read no further! Everything we do with my son is wrapped around inspiring him to make the decision to change, to react differently than his brain has chosen as “normal” so that a “new normal” is created. He re-creates himself by choice daily. If you have kept up with Jenny McCarthy any, then maybe you’ve heard of the whole peptides addiction in conjunction with autism. All of this post makes sense to me as I look at emotional/physical/biological autism. If my struggling son can re-create who he is, then I can too.
Erin saysNovember 22, 2008 at 1:53 pm
I’ll have to come back in order to finish reading the comments, I went to my Netflix que to add that movie and ended up spending 30 minutes adding classic movies to my list. I am thinking my addiction is to the time suck known as the Internet.
I want a vision board, I know when I concentrate on shaping my days and attracting things to me it works. I’ve had problems keeping up with it though, maybe having a visual reminder will help. Thanks for a great guest post.
Donnalouise saysNovember 22, 2008 at 2:44 pm
Vision board – too cool!!! Hope you’re having a great weekend.
Tim Rosanelli saysNovember 22, 2008 at 3:14 pm
It reminds me of that old Ernest Nightingale saying, “We literally become what we think about most of the time”.
Amanda saysNovember 22, 2008 at 3:45 pm
Jamie kicks ***.
So does Miz.
That is all.
James Hubbard, M.D., M.P.H. saysNovember 22, 2008 at 4:34 pm
Hope you follow your own advice on the unrequited love 🙂
The mind and mindset definitely manifest itself physically and physiologically. That is being proven by science more all the time. I know it is true with me.
allie saysNovember 22, 2008 at 4:38 pm
THANK YOU FOR THIS Miz and Jamie and Katy!
I needed to hear this today and am going to try and find that movie to watch tonight.
Jamie saysNovember 22, 2008 at 6:37 pm
Late-in-the-day reactions from me:
Emily, excellent way of putting it. What the mind believes, the body enacts. Excellent.
Liz, we should totally talk 🙂
Hoolie, excellent insights, and I think it’s amazing that you have the courage and self-awareness to share your history with us.
So many good thoughts!
Lisa saysNovember 22, 2008 at 6:57 pm
Yes, a vision board… I am so caught up in the present with my 4 little boys. It really would be great to be a bit more intentional in my everyday. To not get drug down into the small dramas of our lives, but to remember the bigger picture.
I may have to do this. I am already picturing what I would put on it.
giz saysNovember 22, 2008 at 9:55 pm
Wow, what a great intro post. I was just reading about some of these things, though I’ve never heard of the movie (now I need to go rent it asap).
My “addiction” is believing “I can’t do that (yet).” However, I am 38… not yet could easily be never if I let it go too long. I’ve been working on just doing things (like getting my personal training cert), but there are still tons of things I’d love to do, but feel I can’t… but can’t can be emotionalcan’t, and capabilitycan’t… I’m not a stupid girl… although emotionalcan’ts have run a good portion of my life. I just bought today a book a called ’10-Minute Toughness’, hoping to deal more severe blows to the can’ts… so this post is very timely for me. Thank you for sharing it.
charlotte saysNovember 22, 2008 at 9:59 pm
Very interesting explanation of the biological processes behind thought. Always important to keep building new neural pathways! My fave line: “Things that may not be bad, but that may dim in comparison to what you could have.” Ah, to be confronted with the specter of my looming potential:) thanks Jamie.
Tony K saysNovember 22, 2008 at 10:12 pm
Nice intereesting post.
I believe that so much of what we do is programmed, not in the sense of destiny, but in the sense that in any given moment we have little control over our reactions and responses.
To be able to have a different life a year from now, you need to begin change today. Whether it is exposure to new ideas, interactions with different people, or taking care of yourself through a more healthy diet and exercise, change comes from within. Doing these things changes the program that runs you, so when it is time to act or make a choice, you can make a better (non-addictive perhaps) choice.
I did an Emotions for Engineers post on it a while back.
Cyndi saysNovember 23, 2008 at 5:25 am
Great stuff…my own mantra in recent months has been to stop letting ‘life’ happen to ME, and to start creating my life how I want it to be…as much as I am able. That includes envisioning the ‘me’ I want to be, and making the choices and taking the steps necessary to get there. It’s not always easy, but I’m a much happier and settled person just for doing it!
Lara saysNovember 23, 2008 at 6:39 am
Hi there! Thanks for your comment on my blog! WOW-you really are fit! Still, it’s good to know I am not the only one who cannot resist the fondue 😉
karyn saysNovember 23, 2008 at 7:38 am
as everyone else said I needed this post this weekend.
does that mean I attracted it?
Gina saysNovember 23, 2008 at 8:40 am
Great Post, I just quit smoking a few weeks ago, bye bye addiction! So hard but I’m doing great.
Zandria saysNovember 23, 2008 at 12:32 pm
I used to do scrapbooking, but that was when I lived with my aunt and she had a ton of space to spread out — here where I currently live, it’s impossible.
That vision board looks pretty cool, though!
Momisodes saysNovember 23, 2008 at 1:54 pm
Thank you Jamie and MizFit for this post. Very interesting and indeed thought provoking as many have said.
It’s always been difficult for me to hash out my addictions. It’s strange, but when dealing with other people’s lives, I am always a positive thinker. However, with my own, I immediately think negatively. Like the words, “i can’t,” or “it won’t work out,” or “I couldn’t do that.” It’s something my parents ingrained into my thinking as their feeble, weak Chinese daughter.
Geosomin saysNovember 23, 2008 at 2:04 pm
I loved this film because it inspired me and I like the idea of life giving back to you what you take from it, and your attitudes and feelings impacting others. I’ve always believed in things you “need to believe in” and like the thought of some things still being unexplainable – it’s why I am a scientist. I want to know how things work. IT’s the reason I get up int he morning.
As a result, I was fascinated by the water “science” in this film and after seeing the film, I did a lot of reading and research in it. Altho I love the ideas behind it…I am sad to say the water “science” in it is complete and utter trash. The journals publishing these results are not scientific ones…they are ones the researcher published himself (not a peer reviewed one)…and his results are not explored using the scientific method, nor are they reproducable, even within his own work. It is NOT science. Trust me. I’m a scientist. It really dissapointed me to discover that as he’s really doing himself a disservice by trying to be scientific about an abstract thing (and doing it badly)…
Despite my extreme dissapointment, I still feel the idea that he was trying to achieve is the thing to focus on. The concept that your attitude and emotion to yourself and others is enough to change things for the better or worse. I’ve seen it work both ways and even in my own life have found that the attitude and ideas given out come back to me tenfold.
Attitude is the key I think.
I sitll choose to give out kindness and joy to others. Try it. It spreads 🙂
Dr. J saysNovember 23, 2008 at 2:39 pm
We are an addictive species. I think recognizing this is useful. Vigilance is the key, denial, not so good.
Crabby McSlacker saysNovember 23, 2008 at 3:55 pm
Hmm give up my addiction to Crankiness? Might be a bit of a challenge!
Awesome post, Jamie–so well-written, full of fascinating info, and inspirational.
Alice saysNovember 23, 2008 at 4:55 pm
Love both movies, love this post. I recommend the book “Molecules of Emotion” by Candace Pert. I feel it is hard to take this knowledge from an intellectual place, to a place where one truly believes it. It seems we all want to believe what is taught there, yet, we are not expecting to see great changes. Isn’t that the root of the problem?
MizFit saysNovember 23, 2008 at 5:09 pm
sad that this book has been on my TO READ list for (cringes) almost 10 years.
Im going to add that to my list of ‘By 40 I will have…’ thanks for the reminder.
Lea saysNovember 23, 2008 at 5:57 pm
I totally second the addiction to unrequited love. So much better than rationalizing why the accessible person is good enough, the inaccessible person is just so amazingly awesome, it’s better to hold out for him even though it will never happen than to wade into the quagmire that is negotiating an actual relationship. And then at some point maybe it will be too late and all over and I’ll be able to get addicted to What Might Have Been.
We’re all so full of it. Thanks for the great post as a reminder.
s saysNovember 23, 2008 at 6:20 pm
MizFit saysNovember 23, 2008 at 6:39 pm
I hadnt seen that, s.
(and yes. Im child enough to say: *cue confetti shaped shaped like leo*)
Bethany saysNovember 23, 2008 at 8:06 pm
Very interesting… I’ve been wanting to make a vision board for a while, and that’s such a cool idea from Creative Memories! I think it would be so helpful to have my goals displayed where I would see them daily.
Ann saysNovember 23, 2008 at 9:27 pm
Such a fascinating new layer to the law of attraction. I’ve been sick all week, so I’m thinking about it in terms of that – I’ve noticed that when I feel like I’m coming down with something, if I tell myself I’m going to get sick then I do. But if I tell myself I’m NOT getting sick, I’m fine. So I’ve already known the power of law of attraction, just hadn’t learned the science behind it! Thanks for this. it appealed to my positivist mind!
Karl Staib - Work Happy Now saysNovember 23, 2008 at 9:38 pm
When we match our needs with the people around us, we’ll find success. It’s really up to us to find the right matches. We can’t do everything on our own. Even the greatest musical artists need great producers. They understand that good people with a wide range of talents are needed to create beautiful things.
elife saysNovember 23, 2008 at 10:25 pm
Amazing post. Thank you.
Robin saysNovember 24, 2008 at 12:35 am
Thanks for this post – it’s inspiring, and I vaguely knew the info about the peptides, but you have reminded me of the specifics.( I had just remembered there was some scientific evidence about how emotions get “stuck” in our bodies.)
I used to really have an addiction to feeling sorry for myself, but thankfully I have worked through it.
Laura N saysNovember 24, 2008 at 12:34 pm
What an amazing guest post. Thank you.
And Happy Thanksgiving! (I love your plan for dinner.)
Kara from MamaSweat saysNovember 25, 2008 at 4:31 pm
This puts a twist on “triaging my day,” which is what I do after I turn off my alarm (or more often just wake up on my own), before I actually get out of bed. I think about *what really must happen today.* It trumps any to-do list I might have written down. But now I can include a “vision” for my day, too. Not just what *must* happen, but what I’d like to happen (whether that be actual outcomes or feelings I want to experience–like zen patience with my kids:-) Love it. Great idea. Thanks!
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