The other night as I snacked and skimmed through the Book of the Face I stumbled upon photos of friends out for a night on the town. Instead of feeling a pang of Why wasn't I invited? I found myself scrutinizing the images, registering fun being had and noting how amazingly comfy I felt in my PJs/happily ensconced on the couch. Jealousy? FOMO? Nope. Never. Not here. In that moment ... Continue Reading
February 7th is the day we give up.
According to experts February 7th is the dreaded day. It's the day we abandon our resolutions because, as research indicates, 38 days after we greet the New Year filled with hope-- we quit. On this date all the things we felt unflaggingly optimistic about and all the stuffs we thought we could accomplish this year fall by the wayside. Why 38 days? The answer is as complicated and as simple ... Continue Reading
Recently I made a new friend. New friend, I learned by way of what we humans do, is a comedy writer. I could never write comedy, I told my emerging male BFF. I'd cave under the pressure. I'd get paralysis by analysis. My new playmate shrugged. It's easy for me, he responded. I think in humor. It's how my brain works. It's how my brain works. In typical Carla-fashion those 5 words got ... Continue Reading
Speak over yourself.
I'm a big fan of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Albert Ellis is my homeboy. For me the notion of life’s problems stemming from faulty thoughts (cognition)/behaviors not only makes sense--it's comforting. CBT teaches if we shift beliefs/actions toward healthy and productive goals, our lives become easy peasy (Carla-term not CBT-term). In addition, CBT stresses the importance of feeling ... Continue Reading
6 Steps to Separation.
Before we entered the adoption process we researched and read and info gathered and listened and thought we had the whole damn thing figured out. We were naive. Before I entered this marital separation I researched and read and talked and listened and thought I had the whole damn thing figured out. I was naive. #ILiveToBeACautionaryTale Click me! Click me! ... Continue Reading
My thank you note commitment.
we give what we want to receive (7.18.12) My child has everything. She has necessities covered with enough leftover to pay "rent" and help others. In addition, she's not a child who possesses a running mental (or Amazon Wish) list of what she longs to own. Sure, she likes her some Press-Ons. *Yes* she'll happily accept gifts of anything gymnastics-related. For the most part, ... Continue Reading
Fitness Mission Statements: not just for resolutioners!
my form of fitness. I believe in the power of intention. I look to my vision board as source of motivation and inspiration. I turn to my gratitude board as reminder of all I have. At long last I've launched a manifestation journal. I have a personal mission statement. I've revamped my blog's mission statement. I possess a carefully crafted spiritual mission statement. The ... Continue Reading
The Child and I have shared a gratitude practice since she was tiny. It began simply (prayers before bed) and, over time, has grown more complex. It wouldn't be overstating to say I'm proud of how grateful she is. Sure she's 12 and possesses all the snark & entitled moments of any tween, yet at the end of the day she's appreciative for all she has. (Even when, at times, the 'all ... Continue Reading
5 ways to be a Shamash in 2018
We've been back in Austin for 3 years. It's been 3 years (!) since the Child & I chatted about making new friends and what do to when you can't find a nice person. It's flown. It's been a roller coaster. It reminds me of what I've written before with regards to fully living in our bodies versus going through the motions of life encased in a skin-sack. (bear with me. this will ... Continue Reading
Mother/Daughter Journals: how shared writing connects us.
Mother/daughter journaling is something we've done for a while. On the surface it's as simple as a shared notebook where we both write. Sometimes serious and frequently silly our joint-journaling offers easy, silent connection. Right now uncomfortable face-to-face talks are not something which challenge the Child and me. At almost-12 she's still in the ask anything/tell anything phase. ... Continue Reading
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