(our fancy ONLY for G.G. viewing cups.)
The below is in celebration of the fact Gilmore Girls is returning for four NEW 90 minute episodes.
The Child and I have already begun our preparations.
Once upon a time, 15 years ago, a little show named Gilmore Girls was launched.
Flash forward fourteen long years and I’d changed.
Gone were the dreadlocks and thoughts only of myself & growing my training business:
(who knew *those* were the easy days?!)
(yep. I now knew it would only get more complicated.)
I began to search.
I wasn’t sure what I was looking for– I just recalled a conversation I once had with a personal training client.
“I have 2 degrees,” she said. “Both are from Ivy League schools. I never thought Id be a RAW fanatic, but if that’s what it takes to create a shared interest with my son—I’ll do it.”
I remember thinking:
RAW? Wow, that’s love. I hate wrestling. Is that what moms do?!
This same longing for a shared interest was exactly what I felt last year.
Something which might provide a thread of continuity in what I knew would be a bumpy transition time.
Thanks to a conversation with a friend (in passing. serendipity.) I found precisely what I’d been searching for.
A to her eyes fun piece of TV-fluff which has provided me opportunity to reinforce my mothering-approach and yet never have to say a word.
6 ways Gilmore Girls reinforced my mothering
- Change comes and goes. We’re *still* fine. Having never seen G.G. before I’d not realized this was an overarching message and it was a timely reinforcement for us. For a child NOT in a military family my girl moves way too frequently. G.G. has reminded her it is all just fine as long as we’re together.
(child note circa 2012)
- Being a misfit is OK. From the oft repeated those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind to the messages I send about just be yourself it was a happy accident Girlmore Girls backed all this up. Rory is quirky, nerdy, and doesn’t quite fit in at Chilton. She simply chooses to surround herself with others who are the same and is happily OK with it all.
(tater tots + apple sauce + skull plate = our MisFit-Hanukkah)
- It’s important to allow the CHILD an opportunity to play expert. We need to empower children. It’s important to give them wings and not just anchor them with roots. We need to show them the wisdom they already possess. It’s important to let them lead sometimes. “Mama see? Lorelai is like you. She comes to Rory’s bed and asks her advice.” ‘Nuff said.
(photo credit & instructor credit: the 9 year old.)
- Money and material things do not make us happy. Two words: Paris Geller. (More words? Hard work creates a better life. There’s no need for reliance on anyone but yourself and your tenacity.)
(the best things in life *really* are free)
- Traditions are important even if they aren’t traditions others have! From being Jewish to being adopted to being unapologetically ourselves
chances are our traditions differ from other families. That’s not just OK–it’s cause for celebration. Now we *both* do the traditional cowgurl dance to Gilmore Girls’ closing tune:
- wallow feel embrace the sad mourn (BREAKUP) as only then can you move through
- Embrace the sad. Feel all the feelings. Only then can you move on. Ahh Rory. Your break up (deliberately vague here for new watchers) could not have come at a better time for our duo. Your heartbreak reinforced how it’s important to grieve (change. boyfriends. lost friendships. everything.) as only then can you you push through to the *new* which awaits.
(sometimes tattoo-tears precede real tears.)
- Is Gilmore Girls one of your favorites? What life lessons has it reinforced for you?
- Did you, too, LOSE YOUR MIND at the Netflix announcement Monday?