When I launched my second blog, MizFit, it was “enough” to merely possess a passion for healthy living.
It was 2006.
And The Biggest Loser television show was born.
Readers embraced my message, but because of the new focus on tremendous weight-loss stories my words felt diminished.
I wasn’t a big loser– I was a long-term loser.
No stunning numbers–just consistency.
Even back then I challenged myself as to whether I “fit” as a fitness blogger.
Could I inspire others if Id only shed 40 pounds? Could I relate to greater struggles?
I answered myself in the same way I did when I owned my training studio.
I returned to something Id learned in my counseling masters program:
Human struggle is universal.
Our struggles may look different, however, the experience of facing challenges and persevering is one to which we all relate.
Long before the Child (when I was CarlaFictionWriter) I led mother/daughter book groups at brick & mortar book stores.
We’d ostensibly meet to discuss novels, yet what really transpired was sharing/paralleling the characters’ lives to the girls’ own challenges.
I’ve concentrated on helping her learn she may fall short of achieving goals as we all do, but when she learns & grows from the experience there’s no such thing as failure.
Now that she’s older I’m learning the best way to guide her is to remain silent.
To practice what I LONG to preach (and say not a word).
I’m pulling back my narrow focus and broadening it once again.
I plan to spread my message of Girl Power! through returning to teaching yoga to kids.
I’m creating a mother/daughter journal in an effort to more widely promote the benefits of a shared writing practice.
6 out of 10 girls stop doing what they love because they feel insecure about their looks.
That’s a whole lot of our next generation derailed from their dreams.
Girls who could change the world.
Girls who could change lives.
Girls who need us women to step up, stand up and lend a hand during this developmental time which can feel daunting and Sisyphean.
I never recall feeling stoppable even when my outside didn’t match how I felt on the inside.
I never equated my beer, pizza, and junk-food bod with diminished self-worth.
Even if my confidence was misplaced some days–I’ve always felt UNSTOPPABLE.
And I wanted a simple way to break it down for 11. Using concepts she’d grasp and in a manner in which she’d really hear me.
- Choose friends wisely. In great and not so great ways we are judged by the company we keep. We tend to become like those with whom we spend the most time (that’s a shout out to you, Jim Rohn). Positivity spreads, but so does fat talk and negative self talk. Choose your tribe carefully. Pay attention to how they treat each other and how they treat themselves.
Seek people who do not view your success as equating to their failure.
- Compliment yourself! At 11 the Child still adores being showered with compliments. Heck at 47 I do, too. The difference is, at my age, I’m entirely aware telling myself YOU ROCK! can be just as satisfying/effective as hearing it from others. It took me years to arrive at this place—I’m committed to helping her find her way more rapidly.
- Know where you’re headed. As women many of us possess a mission statement or vision board. With girls these “road maps” may be as simple a mantra or personal catch phrase. It’s imperative we assist our girls in developing a general sense of where they’re headed or they’re certain never to get there. Plans may be fluid (11 is convinced she’ll be a special ed teacher), but creating/possessing a clear if temporary path facilitates the girls internalizing the fact they are, indeed, going places. They’re unstoppable.
As the amazing Jess Weiner says:
Girls have the ingredients for self-worth, but sometimes need the recipe.
Let’s all help in creating the recipe.
- How will you be UNSTOPPABLE today?
- How will you remind the girls/women in your life: There’s room enough for us ALL to rock?