Other teams ATE HER BUBBLES! all last summer.
I’m here to announce The Child has quit swim team.
I’m here to share I encouraged it.
And are you ready for the last part?
I cheered her on because I’m big believer in quitting.
A quit’advocate if you will.
A woman who’s BRAZEN enough to leap to her feet and announce she doesn’t agree with the adage:
A quitter never wins and a winner never quits.
I quit bodybuilding.
All of that quit’vocating said, I do possess a checklist of sorts which I go though before I commit to the quit.
An exercise which serves as a way to affirm I’m not quitting out of fear and that ceasing the activity/project is the right course of action.
My process is simple.
I measure the goal/experience I want to quit against three ideas:
1. Is it still a goal/endeavor I long to do? Just because something was once important to me does not mean it still is. I remind myself of the fluidity of life and of the fact it’s OK to shed/quit even good habits!
2. Quitting provides space for new experiences. If I’m holding on tightly with both hands (AKA jam-packing my life) I cannot receive or experience more. I ask myself if quitting XXX will increase the margins in my daily life?
3. Quitting is the ultimate in self-care and intuitive living. It’s loving myself enough to not fret about what others think. It’s tapping into my gut & knowing quitting is right for me. I sit with/ask myself if I have that sense/feeling about this particular scenario?
In addition, since I’m an adult, I feel compelled to clarify I never “just quit” when my action might negatively impact others (nor would I allow the Child).
People who are able to let go when they experience unattainable/desirable goals have less depressive symptoms, less negative affect over time…lower cortisol levels, lower levels of inflammation and develop fewer physical health problems.
The key to experiencing better health according to the research? Letting go. Quitting.
Quitting is simple (“Mama, I’m done with swimming. I really want to focus on gymnastics.).
Quitting might be best summed up by W.C. Fields:
The swim-quitter & I long to know:
Are you a Stick With It Sally or a Quitter McGee?