Making time for ME.

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Ahhhh People. Life has been hectic around here lately. I've mothered. I've panicked about money and retirement and will I be alone forever?! I've hung with some fave people and refilled my connection tank. I've laughed until I cried. I've created a biz I never ever saw coming. I chatted with one of my board members (she may not know she's on my 'board of ... Continue Reading

Prioritizing PLEASURE.

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Recently Ive thought a lot about self-care and pleasure. Self-care for me used to mean pedicures, massages and weekends with friends. Self-care was defined as 'things which made me feel nurtured' and which relaxed me. Not all of these activities co$t money (an afternoon spent reading was as decadent as a fancy night out), yet they had one thing in common. They weren't productive. ... Continue Reading

When trust is broken.

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This is 12. I love 12. Recently, I lied to the almost 13-year-old. It wasn’t a white lie. It was one of those full-on, bearing absolutely no resemblance to the truth fabrications. It happened in a flash. In a moment where I gave fleeting thought to truth-telling and instead chose to plunge ahead and commit a falsification. Spoiler alert: As with all lying liars who lie I was found ... Continue Reading

Im not sprinting.

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Drake sings it. I preach it. There are myriad reasons a certain human may or may not succeed in her new side-hustle (foreshadowing!), but one thing is certain: All great things take time. I won't dash. I won't rush. I won't hurl my *anything* full speed ahead. What will I do? Thanks for asking. Small daily steps. Yep. It's still how I live every facet of my ... Continue Reading

Have we failed our girls?

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It's stunning to me how rapidly my child has grown from this: into this: As a mother I’ve failed her in myriad ways. Accidentally. Ways which should have been within my control, yet were not. Choices which seemed to be for the best and, in hindsight, may not have been. Upon reflection, which I did last week, I can see my actions came from places of good intent. This ... Continue Reading

Grieving the living.

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After forty nine years on the planet I've learned a lot. I've learned to embrace my fears. I've learned about forgiveness and resilience. I've learned the importance of growth even when I'd prefer stagnation. I'd thought I'd learned acceptance around loss of relationships and how to rebound. Spoiler alert: I was wrong. I'd mastered the listed lessons, but there was one I'd not yet ... Continue Reading

3 reasons personal boundaries are important

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I rock the boundaries like a motherfucker. I draw them in Sharpie leaving myself ample space to ooze off the paper and not spark stress. Still, even though parameter-setting verges on reflexive for me, it's hard. It takes courage, feels vulnerable and, at times, sparks a sense of fear like no other. Recently I drew boundaries with a loved one which felt excruciatingly challenging. I ... Continue Reading

Why you need a friend with no filter.

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For years Ive joked about the fact I don’t possess a filter.  You know that whole thing they say about more truth being said in jest? Yep. That’s it here, too. While I’m capable of affixing a screen when adulting demands it—100% of the rest of the time I’m blunt, upfront and extraordinarily honest. I like to think this isn't a bad thing. Not only am I never unkind (if my thoughts ... Continue Reading

Emotional Growth.

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the beforebefore. I talk a lot about the fact growth or movement forward often occurs so incrementally we barely see it happening. Usually when I’m yammering about this notion it has to do with fitness and healthy living. I remind people the power of NSVs (remember those?!) and how even when change is slower than we desire we're creating habits which will launch us forward. Newsflash: ... Continue Reading

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