Once upon a time, while deep in the throes of graduate school, I invested time defining my core values.
With the wide-eyed life excitement the young possess and the older covet, I spent countless hours brainstorming my fundamental beliefs in effort to create a foundation for my personal and professional life.
2+ decades later these beliefs haven’t shifted much.
Other than a few tweaks (I was never a woman who desperately wanted marriage or family) they’ve remained static.
My core beliefs may have remained unchanged I, however, have not.
Running WALKING toward mid-life.
- I’ve identified core values.
- I’ve created myriad mission statements.
- I’ve located my drishti.
- I still craved a framework to help me navigate a path toward the life I wished to create.
I was stumped.
All I knew for certain was I didn’t want to impose rules around my existence even if the guidelines might get me to my destination more swiftly.
Not only am I anti-MUSTurbation, I wholly believe our best lives are experienced through releasing attachment to any outcome. I knew for me it was about the process of the next 40 years not implementing rigidity regarding making my way there.
I was stumped.
I needed a set of commandments.
I wasn’t seeking another mission statement or life-values list. I longed for a set of overarching, non-religion based principles by which to live the remainder of life.
I paused Jim C. immediately and got to work.
I brainstormed the woman I aspired to be and how Id need to behave in order to become her.
I pondered the impact I wanted to make in my remaining years and considered what characteristics would be required to achieve this.
Be it serendipity or subconscious conformity after repeated writing and revising I ended up with a list of ten items (AKA commandments). A list which felt like a summary of sorts of the fundamental principles by which I’ll strive to live my life.
Ten vague by design, non-punitive mini-goals. ‘Commandments’ which compel me consider/use them as guiding principles whose meaning may shift depending upon each individual life-scenario.
Will this creation of Personal 10 Commandments be the key I seek to unlocking my best life?
Will the brevity/concise nature of my list propel me rapidly toward success in a way verbose mission statements have not?
At this point it’s yet to be determined (check back with me in 20 years?), but half of the battle has been won in that I’m truly excited to discover/find out.
- Have you created ever “personal commandments?”
- Do you turn to detailed mission statements to help create your best life?